there should be no reason for this. we just starting talking about a week ago and now that i have other things to do and just can't talk to him all the time, he is becoming psyco. besides avoiding how do i tell him in a nice way that i am not a canidate for his girlfriend i just want to be his friend. i have said it with words but the point is not getting across to him
2006-09-06 03:49:52 · 23 answers · asked by platinum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him one more time that you guys are friends and nothing more. You need to also tell him that he's becoming a little too possesive and that's not what you're looking for in a friend. If all doesn't go well, drop this person, don't answer his phone calls or open the door when he comes over. Make sure that you're completely honest with him but choose your words very carefully so that you won't be leading him on or hurt his feeling for that matter. Honesty is the best policy so tell him the truth. Good luck.
2006-09-06 03:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Major red flag. Haven't you read the domestic violence reports that are flooding the news on a daily basis? This is how it starts. The guy gets real possessive real fast, then tries to control through the use of emotional and then physical abuse. You cannot be his friend because he is not looking for a friend, he is looking for someone to dominate and control. You need to cut him out immediately, anything less than that might be seen, (by him) as you leading him on. If he doesn't get the message, I would get a restraining order immediately. Keep me posted on this on.
2006-09-06 10:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UUUGH! I had the same problem, I just came out & said "this isnt working, I see some possessiveness & jealousy coming from you & I cant deal with that". He got mad & told me I must not want a good man that I want to be treated like sh*t. So I told him that no, if having a good man meant having those qualities too that I didnt want it. And I wouldnt bother with the "being friends" thing, if thats his kind of personality, it isnt going to change, I see problems down the road. So with that being said, after you tell him that, then you can stop taking his calls because you made it clear that you 2 just arent a fit for eachother. Good luck! Thanks for the info on NUVA RING btw!
2006-09-06 10:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-mail or send a letter saying you have too much going on in you life right now and you don't have the time or dedication for a relationship right now and tell him he deserves somebody with more time that's ready to be in a relationship. Then hope like hell he buys this and stay the hell away from the psyhco. The more attached he gets the more crazy he will get and he will end up trying to hurt or kill you! Good luck!!
2006-09-06 11:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem young have fun with it i guess!
go out with him and turn in to a freak.. but that is morallly wrong!
i personally would do it like this
invite him over
then tell him this
I see we have a nice friendship i can tell you want more. then wait for his yes... and because we are friends i'm going to be the best friend i can to you! I like you as a friend but sometimes you get to clingy and i don't like that! I don't think we will ever kiss or go on a date! i'm sorry but as a friend you get annoying sometimes and i do not find you sexualy attractive cute yeah but there is nothing going for us! then make him restate what you told him! look at him now and go!
do you know what i said to you? if he says yes then say what did i say to you? if he says that you just want to be friends then ask him what does that mean to him? I mean still be his friend but make sure he understand ask him questions if he don't!~ get in his face! SAY THE WORDS " WE ARE ONLY FRIENDS AND NEVER ANYTHING MORE" i know it may seem harsh but what do you want some dude hanging on you all the time or be called a blunt bold person...
just ensure that he knows your not doing this to hurt him your saving him the pain if he tried to...
Hope it helped
Mad luv
2006-09-06 10:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he actaully loves you which is funny, because you don't want him to love you so he is getting mad.
It is funny how women look at this issue. Especially ones that well have been with that man I.E. Sex that they might fall in love and then bam there you are.
You haven't provided enough information on this also some people are extremely religious and are looking for that one and if for some reason he thinks you are that one you gotta whol other situation going on.
2006-09-06 10:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out and tell him you're afraid of his actions toward you. Tell him you have no intentions in the near future of beginniing a serious relationship with him and that you have other friends and acquaintences you need interaction with besides him.
2006-09-06 10:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop allowing him to come over, stop accepting his phone calls, don't respond to any of his txts or emails..
u need to not entertain him at all.. let him know how u feel again and shout it in his face if u have to.. let him know that friends r not property to be possessed and tell him that's how he's treating u and for that reason u only want a hi and bye relationship w/him.. don't wait around for him to respond, just walk away..
2006-09-06 10:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say "i dont want to be your girlfriend. I am an adult and dont need you to hold my hand. I can do anything I want without your permission. Leave me alone." all with a straight face. If you smile while saying this he may think your trying to flirt with him and that is not the signal you are trying to send.
2006-09-06 11:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about some imaginary new boy friend and how you are absolutely crazy about this new guy and keep this on till he gets it that you have moved on to someone else.
2006-09-06 10:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋