I don't know how or if I should even tell my husband?

Question

We have four children. One of them is not my husbands. I had an affair for a few months with a man up the road. Should I tell my husband? He has never asked and I imagine doesn't suspect a thing. The affair was a mistake, but I love my baby and my husband. What to do, if anything?

Answer 1

DO NOT TELL YOUR HUSBAND unless you want a divorce, honey! What would be gained by telling the man? You think you're the only woman who got caught up in something like this? You're not. So forget it. If it ever comes to a life/death decision about your baby, then you'll have to fess up. I've worked in alot of hospitals and you can't imagine how many women have babies that could't possibly belong to their husbands due to blood typing. So, let it go. Keep a secret and have a good life! Godloveyou!

Answer 2

This is a hard question. On one hand, if nothing is apparently wrong, then it's best to not say anything. However, there is a trust issue. The face that you are worrying about this tells me that the affair plauges your mind. Inadvertanly, this is no doubt creating a small wedge between you and your husband. You need to tell him, and try to make it right. Your husband will be upset at first, but the two of you can work on this together. Don't give up and let it ruin your marriage. See a marraige counsleor if necessary. Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all does he get mad very quickly!And yes !Remember you said you would not have an affair with any other person and hes ya husband !why NOT!Tell him you loved him even though this mystery man had you pregnant1 and you have added that child into your family with him so he'd better treat the child like his own! And still think of him as a a son! Yall have to be trust worthy so yall have to balance yalls trust be faithful ! And tell him! ON THE OTHA HAND: If doesn't like it then da hell with him! you dont need a man dats not going to love the rest and leave one out he has to love them all! HATE IT OR LOVE IT!!! And your child needs to know also that the husband is not the father stays up the street! The street of your house!

Answer 4

tell him the wrost thing is that ur lying to ur child aswell as urself and ur husband u can be livivng a double life behind close door. Because the wrost thing is for him to find out hiself and he would only be more angry then if u told him i sure he will understand it sounds like he really love u because ur both marrige with kids. And also if u knw that there was nothin behind the affair u had in the past so dont worry that was the past and u move on from that so focus on the bright u will have if u tell him

Answer 5

I think you are only thinking of yourself with this question (as you were when you committed the sinful act). I don't mean to be harsh but who gains from the telling? Certainly not your husband! You will destroy his life! And, having had a child out of the cheating, I can't imagine he'll stick around. Therefore, you'd be shattering the lives of your children as well. The primary reason to tell is just to unburden yourself of the guilt and shame...well guess what? Suck it up and live with it! You made the choice when you cheated, so just try to be the best wife and mother you can be from here on out and maybe, one day, you'll be justified in forgiving yourself. I truly wish you good luck! And, for all of us...always consider the consequences of our actions, because once done, they cannot be undone!

Answer 6

Whatever is done in the dark, will eventually come to light...

How would you prefer your husband to find out? From you, or sometime in the future due to some chance occurrence.

I would say the baby now has more of your features, but eventually, the baby is going to start exhibiting some of the father's DNA. Height... blood type... feet... skin shade, perhaps... other features. Your husband may or may not notice, because he loves the baby that much. But someone is going to notice and they might just happen to ask or mention it.

I just pray that your marriage is strong enough to weather the damage if he should ever find out.

God bless you all...

Answer 7

Shut the hell up. You made one mistake, don't make two!!!!!!!! He would rightly loose all trust in you, and your marriage would ultimately fail....... The only way he would find out if in later life the child needed to have a tissue match for an organ transplant. DNA would be used, and since that is unlikely. If it ever comes to something like that, and your husband were to be a donor, you would need to take the physician aside and infor HIM that your husband was not the father..... he'd find a way to tell your husband that the tissue match was incomplete. Otherwise, any medical event you could confine in the attending physician

Answer 8

Do you really want to be one of those embarassing families on Maury? Seriously, it's a guilt you have so confess it to a priest or counselor. Your mistake can really hurt a lot of people. I know honestly is really important and I pride in being an honest person. But in your situation I really believe whole heartedly that you need to keep this can of worms CLOSED! You will unleash a wrath that you won't know how to handle. If you love your family spare the pain you can cause with this information.

Answer 9

that is a very hard question to answer on one hand you risk everything, loosing the love of your family but on the other hand they have a right to know and sooner or later the truth will come out and then they might hate you even more for hidding it so long.
you never know how they might take the news but i don't think your husband would disown your kid it's not his fault and your kid has only seen your husband as a father he will still love him.



GOOD LUCK AND MAY GOD HELP YOU WITH THIS

Answer 10

You should tell him but also get ready to face any tragedy after that will happen. Girl! If you love your husband how did you sleep with another person? So Love and your husband are not valuable in front of your sexual feeling with another Stranger man? Dam.. You should shame about your self.