He attended here last year. Has lived with me on and off for years. Continually for the last 13 months. Mothers back in his life with her latest paramoor and wants him back he's 16. He doesnt want to go. she promised he would never have to change schools again. Last time he lived with her he got into legal troubkle. He's paid his dues and done his community service. This happened after she had once again moved him. I have no trouble with the boy. Now he can't attend school here because she registered him at the school in her district. Also took all the boys clothes and a game box he worked all summer to earn. He lives here, works here and did attend school here. Now they wont let him go to school until his mom agrees to re register him. She wont. This is the second day of school, I'm afraid is he misses too much he won't want to go back because he's falling behind daily. contacted courts, but may take months to resolve. he refuses to go to other school. What can i do?
2006-09-06 03:45:32 · 9 answers · asked by Margo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to the mother. She is trying to obtain some sort of family life and have an influence on him before he is an adult and doesn't need her anymore.
I would speak frankly to her. I would need to ask her, "Do you want this for you or him?" Tell her you WANT her to be with him and under better circumstances it would be the happiest thing for you. She probably feels like you are trying to 'take' her son. She's flexing her power and showing you she's the mother. You have to counter that by giving her the power and letting her decide that it's best for him to be with you.
It will take a lot of finesse and gentle gentle persuation but if done right he'll be with you and she'll feel like it was her decision. Also maybe ask her to let him stay at the school he's at until she figures it all out and maybe you would even have to go back and forth to get him in the mornings.
I hope it all works out. Selfish mom's are a hard lot to deal with.
P.S.
You may want to work the angle that her and her new man can get to know eachother better and have time to develop their relationship without introducing this new element that might strain the relationship.
2006-09-06 03:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do what you should have done alot earlier...go to social services and ask if you have any rights. Why didn't you get your daughter to let you be the guardian alot earlier? If this doesn't work, he only has 2 more years and he can come back home to you. Also, at 16, he should have some say-so about where he wants to live. So get some counseling right now if you want to help the kid. Godloveya!
2006-09-06 11:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally he has to be in school, and as long as she is the legal gaurdian, there is nothing you can do. Take it to court, present all the information to the courts, including school reports about the behavioural differences (very important to have that verified!). It may take time, but you know it will be worth it in the end for his benefit.
Had to go through the same stuff with my step kids. My husband had to go back to court more than once to get the situation dealt with.
Hope things work out for your grandson.
2006-09-06 10:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother (who has a "paramoor") has no business whatsoever having custody of him, and the only thing I can say is I wish you could do everything within your power to get him away from her captiviity.
I also hope that at 16 the young man would happen to be a rugged football player or wrestler type, and is mature enough to bust that "paramoor" right in the mouth.
2006-09-06 10:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his mom needs a swift kick in the butt, but i'm afraid your hands are tied. you may try a little begging on your hands and knees. or turn on the tears and pour it on her how dissapointed the boy is and how heart broken you are . keep bugging her till she gives in.
2006-09-06 10:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandson can simply say that mother's 'callers' are molesting him and he will be removed PRONTO by police. Police will likely place him with family during red tape process...meanwhile, he can live with you.
2006-09-06 10:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move into the district you want him to go to school in
2006-09-06 10:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by jacemo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's the mom, case closed.
2006-09-06 10:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away.
2006-09-06 10:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋