Me and my boyfriend had been going out for 4 months exactly when he tells me we should see other people. He said that he wasn't dumping me for someone else and that he still really liked me, but his life was really hectic at that time and he thought that a girlfriend would make it more complicated. He said that he wanted to go back out with me, so it was more like a break then a break up. The same day, I get a call from one of my best friends saying that he had called her. He talked about how he still loved me, but there were other girls that he liked that he saw every day. Also that the same day he broke up with me he went over to one of his friend's house and she asked him out and he was considering it. What I get from it is that he broke up with me before he started cheating on me. Also when he said that he wanted to go back out with me, he was saying that he wanted to go back out with me, but I had to wait until he went out with a bunch of other girls first. What does it mean?
2006-09-06 03:43:15 · 40 answers · asked by chelsea h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It means move on or be happy being his booty call girl!
2006-09-06 03:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First up, I'm not sure how old you are and that really makes a difference - is this one of your first serious relationships or have you been dating for a while now?
It seems obvious to me that your boyfriend wats to have his cake and eat it too - he want s to 'go out' with you and shag other girls at the same time. His excuse that his life is 'hectic' a the moment isn't really an excuse, nor is it any kind of real justifcation. Isn't everyoe's lfe hectic? And what does "at the moment" mean? Will his life stop being hectic at 2:30pm on October the 9th or someting?
I'm guessing that this is all down to the 'big C' (no, not cancer!) - Commitment. He obviously doesn't love you in any true sense of the word, or he wouldn't dream of loooking at another girl (well, we all dream of it..... ;), let alone going round to one of his friends and seeing if she fancied a quick shag whilst he was 'broke up' with you.
What do you think his reaction would be if you suddenly had a casual relationship with his best mate, because the two of you are 'split up' now? He'd probably go ape. o why are you even contemplating staying with this guy?
I'm a guy (if u hadn't realised) and we all say we'd love a relationship lke this - one girl who's always there and a few others to mess around with - but in honesty we're all really looking for that special 'one' same as you girls. And wen we find her, and reallyfall in love with her, we're in for life, not just until some other pretty face makes herself available.
This guy does NOT love you. Go find another one.
2006-09-06 03:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by miles_muso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake & to eat it too. If you let him do it, it will become a habit. So get rid of him now while you can. Trust me I went through something similar for 3 years before I finally woke up & realized it was all just a game to him & my feelings were way stronger than his.If I had just left him alone the first time I would have been so much better off, because as time goes by it gets harder & harder, more stressful & hurts alot more. So please do yourself a favor & know that you deserve better! Also if things were "hectic" why would he want to see other people...adding 3 more people to the equation isnt going to make the situation better, that would only make it more "hectic"!
2006-09-06 03:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to guess you are in your teens, and this is high school stuff. If you're older and a guy is doing this, then he's an idiot and you should just move on.
NO! You aren't crazy. ;) High School boys, like him, haven't learned to appreciate what they have, ie you. So now he's trying to 'play the field'. I recommend you go out with another guy. A good choice would be some guy that he especially dislikes. As the saying goes, 'Two can play that game.'
2006-09-06 03:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that he is a inconsiderate fool just like most men on this planet, and that he is a player and he probabaly played u long before he decided to go on a brake. that was probably just a cover story not make more sh*t for himself. and for the fact that he already started "considering" girls on the same day that he so "nicely" dumped u ( cause that is what he did) is so lousy! he obviosly dont want any commitments and he probabaly wants to get as many girls in the sack as what he can! sorry sweetheart, this man is a fool dont be hung up on him, forget about him. and how hectic is his life that he doesnt want anyone by his side? bullsh*t! he is just a *)@!
Forget about him, my advice? eat as many ben & jerrys as what it takes to forget about that loser!
2006-09-06 03:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by livinia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole reason for breaking up with you is so that he can see other people. I don't understand why you're frustrated. At least he broke up with you before he went to another girl! There is far worse that he could've done...
Yes, he messed up when he said he wanted to go out with you again, but it was his way of breaking up with you nicely! He was trying to be nice, and maybe you hate him for that.
The truth is, he doesn't want to go out with you. He wants to explore other options and he wanted to break up with you first, so you don't get hurt. Take my advice - move on, forget about him, and start having some fun yourself!!!
2006-09-06 03:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you need to move on and get away from this loser. He is not ready for a one on one commitment. I'm sorry you had to go through that type of emotional pain, but I'm afraid you may have a few more before you find Mr. Right. Good luck and let this be a lesson learned and try to not let it happen again.
2006-09-06 03:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it sounds as though he wanted to break up with you, and he was being very kind, as to how he told you. Perhaps, neither one of you are ready for a relationship of any seriousness, depending on your age. So, go ahead and see other boys and have as much fun as possible, while you are young. There is plenty of time for you to get serious and get tied down to just one fellow. Play the field, have fun and stay out of mischief..............
2006-09-06 03:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by skyeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a loser. He is using you as back-up, he thinks you will be there waiting for him, so he can always bounce back to you and when gets bored or dosen't get along with the other girls. Don't take his ****, move on and leave him in the dust. He'll see what he's missing when your gone.
2006-09-06 03:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he doesn't find you a priority in his life. I don't think he's ready for a steady relationship with you, or with anyone for that fact, and I believe you're wanting a guy just for you. By him telling you he wants to date you again at a later time, that means he wants you to wait on him while he goes out gallavanting.
I suggest you leave him completely alone to save yourself any future heartache or humiliation. Go out with your girl friends and have fun. Meet someone else who thinks you're important!!
2006-09-06 03:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he is suggesting is an open relationship, as in he wants to see other girls, but still expects you to wait around for him.. You are only crazy if you go along with this, he wants to have his cake and eat it. Start dating other men, there are decent ones out there that will treat you with respect and love.
2006-09-06 03:46:47 · answer #11 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋