He knows how much it hurts my feelings but he wont stop. He's 'at it' while im asleep and hides it all over the house for easy access every time he goes to the toilet or has a shower. It makes me feel so unwanted. We have sex about once every 2 months or so. Usually when he's hung over. I've given up initiating sex, no point. Whats the go? What do i do?
2006-09-06 03:27:45 · 16 answers · asked by rachel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your partner is addicted to something that you cannot provide at a moments notice. He lives for a life of fantasy. He has probably never had a meaningful relationship in which his partner tries to fill the emotional needs as well as his physical ones. He is wrong to use porn as an outlet because he has you to show him love both physically and emotionally. Perhaps he does not feel the same as you because he does not stop using it.
Please recognize that it will NOT go away over night. It is an addiction that he needs to shake. This may take months even years to lose and that's if he wants to lose the addiction.
2006-09-06 03:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with one of three options....each with a different approach or outcome......
1. Leave him.......if he's not into you then there may just be some things he doesn't find fulfilling with you....(Fantasies, appearance, etc, etc)....
2. Watch the porn he watches the most when he's not around, pick up on any acts that are portrayed in the videos and then act them out on him, (Possibly by taking control / force)....I'm sure that will stir him up quite quickly.
3. Sit down with him and talk everything out and find out his reasonings......sounds like when he's in the mood.....you're busy sleeping or doing other things...........so get to the heart of the matter.
2006-09-06 03:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 09:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people get addicted to porn in the same way some get hooked on drugs or booze. If he is not meeting your needs tell him. Do you think he is a "Porn Addict" if so tell him to get help' join an "A.A" type support group and start satisfying your needs or it may cost the relationship. Hell, just tell him to read this.
2006-09-06 05:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!! Of course it makes you feel hurt. And might I add...substandard. People who choose porn over something real cannot deal with reality. It is sad really, for they will never know what it's all about. It is not a disease. That's a load of crap! Move on sweetie, real men are out there who will treat and love you like you deserve. Think more of yourself! RUN!!!
2006-09-06 03:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by smile4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a sex addict, honey, and it has nothing to do with you.. They drink while they look at the stuff, jerk off, when you are availaable, spend more time looking at it than they spend at work. It is about untreatable, ask any counsellor. It's a personality defect that is just about total
2006-09-06 04:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
porn is aslways very important thing for men, but it doesnt mean that having sex with porns and without ur partner....
if u care about this relation than try to talk, try to make him calm, coz it seems that it is an illness for him....
if u dont care about the relation, find another one, dont make urself tired with him....
just communication will solve ur problem, but u need to be calm...
good luck....
2006-09-06 03:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by sweetmanwithpower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to watch some porn yourself....learn a little....change some things in your sex life....bring out the toys and let him watch you masterbate. that is a huge turn on for a guy.
good luck
2006-09-06 04:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by lonely northern alberta guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, this relationship is not going anywhere and will only get worse. You're wasting your time on someone who doesn't deserve it. Good luck.
2006-09-06 04:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have to move on from this problem. Do recognize that your bf has a problem - having sex with you isn't going to solve it.
2006-09-06 03:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋