okay my sister has a bf and he has a baby on the way but he found that out about 3 months after my sister and him were dating..she is in love with him but has always wanted kids of her own and a nice family, she is stressin out because she doesnt want this, but she loves him so much, how can she cope with this?should she break up with him or what?
2006-09-06 03:27:20 · 13 answers · asked by miss_diamondprincess18 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It doesn't really make sense for her to go through all of that if she doesn't have to. If she feels she will never ever be able to find somebody she loves as much again and she doesn't care about the baby he's having with this other woman then there is no reason she can't have a family with this man. It's just she will never have the pleasure of having the experience of first pregnancy with him because he will always remember how stressful it was with this other woman.
I would suggest she break up and move on.
2006-09-06 03:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister should want more for herself. How about getting a man that doesn' t have so much drama in his life. She should already know that this man needs to take care of this baby and that is where his priority should be. Why would she want a man like this? Love has nothing to do with it. Tell her to use her head. She needs to cut the ties and move on. She should let him take some time to get his life in order and she should get some self esteem and find a man that doesn't have baby drama.
2006-09-06 11:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves him, and he loves her then the best thing for them both to do would be to stay together, It's not the baby's fault It didn't ask to be brought into this world, If your sister Isn't ready to be a mother, b/c she will have to take care of the baby also, then maybe she should walk away. I think the best way to deal with
this Is be their for him and his baby as long as he has been truthful and straight forward with her about this then they should be okay. I wish your sister the best, and tell her to keep her chin up and to take care.
2006-09-06 10:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by twofroggiesand1princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did she learn of the new baby if she learned after the fact he could have lied or how does he know if the baby is his when he just found out three months ago she needs to get him to question that because it could be a trap to mess things uo between them or it could never know but someone better fess up!!
2006-09-06 10:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by keishahayes2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, break up & stay away from all the drama of their 2 families...it's not worth it for a baby that's not even hers.
Tell her to break up now..not after the baby is born. She'll want to stay just cause the baby is cute & the mothering instincts will kick in & then she's perma-screwed.
2006-09-06 10:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she can always have kids of her own with him that wont stop in any way i wouldnt break up with him since he didnt even know his self.. im sure if he knew he would of told her and thats no reason to break up with a guy it might hurt that he will already have a kid but she should give the guy a chance i mean if it is ment to be it will if its not ment to be it wont work out but either way your sister needs to give her realationship a chance with him so that way she will know how strong there love really is if its true love you can overcome anything in a realationship if its not true love then you to will end up breaking up..
2006-09-06 10:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should move on.. the last thing you want is to be with a guy that has one kid out of wedlock.. he will be paying child support and dealing with his "ex" for the rest of his life.. would she want that???
I wouldnt want to be with a guy who has that much disrespect for kids that he created one with a woman he didnt bother to stay with (meaning even if he didnt know he made a baby he shouldnt have had unprotected sex in the first place unless he was in a commited relationship)
so she should cut her losses now before it gets worse.. the financial burden on him for the next 18 years will be something she doesnt need to be involved with
2006-09-06 10:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him, love his kids. I married a guy with two teen-age kids and I treated them like they were my own. It is not the baby's fault, and if she does not think that she would be able to love that child she needs to leave him, because he will leave her eventually if she cannot accept his child.
2006-09-06 10:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how she learned about the baby. Has he been up front with her?
Relationships have to be built on trust...
2006-09-06 10:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by fairly smart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should put a lot of thought into that relationship.
does she really want to step into a relationship with a man that has a newborn. if she is looking for longterm commitment, then i dont think this is the relationship for her.
2006-09-06 10:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋