he asked me to marry him in may. I said yes. Why, not sure. I don't want to get married again so soon, expecially not to him. Now he has got me where he wants me. Ingaged, and we are in a rent to own type of lease together on a house. how long before he leaves me? will he? I wouldn't care if he did, frankly it would make my life a little easier, except in the money department. I don't want to give up my house either...
2006-09-06 03:04:13 · 13 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh, we have lots of history... he has not been so nice to me. I kinda fel for his it will be better this time bit too many times, so now the love is lost. i am not in in just for the money... but now it keeps me hanging on
I think one of the only reasons he is with be is cause his ex wife won't have him back
2006-09-06 03:12:44 · update #1
We can only hope the poor bastard reads this........
2006-09-06 03:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You know there's nothing wrong with wanting to leave and I know the feeling of stability with someone makes you feel like you can't leave! You just have to have the will power to get up and go!! I would advise you to not mention anything to him about it until you get completely on your feet. Why, because if a women feels this way 9 out of 10 the love is lost and if you stay it will become a love hate relationship with a lot of bickering and arguing will ensue and that's not healthy it will kill what little bit of spirit you have within you!! Good luck and make sure before you leave take the time to sit down and let him know what your plans are and be happy to assist him in any way possible don't just leave with out doing that because after all he was once a man you respected and loved enough to be with!
2006-09-06 10:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must tell him, and the sooner the better. I was in a similar situation four years ago. My ex boyfriend and I had dated 2 years. He was 31 and wanted to marry me but I was 23 and not ready...we fought a lot, I didn't like his friends, and I always felt like I was trying to match his feelings but couldn't quite get there. In May of 2002 we had a huge fight and almost broke up, but we talked it out and he admitted that he wanted to propose that very year near Christmas. I was so excited with the prospect of a ring and the wedding that I completely agreed to it. He went out, immediately bought a condo for us and then in August, I just freaked out. I realized I couldn't do it. I didn't see us lasting and he just didn't feel like the one. I called him up and said, "I can't do this. I can't be with you, live with you, marry you or anything." He said he was glad I told him when I did.
Less then a year after that, I met my now husband. We went ring shopping after only 1 month of dating. 3 years later we've been married 1 year now and it's just right.
Don't give up hope...this guy might not be the one, but you may be getting that much closer to the guy who is.
Good luck! :)
2006-09-06 10:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you in this relationship if you have no interest in the guy, you are just messing him around, get rid of him so he can find somebody who will actually love him and not keep him because it makes life easier with money
2006-09-06 10:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by Alik411 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok let me see. You are in a relationship but only because of the money. That would make you a ???????
2006-09-06 10:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Doc Phil 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to be honest with the guy and tell him how you truly feel. He deserves to be with someone who wants to be with him not his money. Suck it up and break it off.
2006-09-06 10:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by littlestory 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him straight, you'll both feel like **** for a wile but its better in the long run. talk honestly and openly
2006-09-06 10:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by 8Ball 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just remember you reap what you sow ! So get out now then pray to god for mercy
2006-09-06 10:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Keshia K 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, talk about a couple of losers! You belong together.
2006-09-06 10:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by InternetPosterChild 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So you want it all
you might just get bitten
2006-09-06 10:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋