i undestand that i was raped when i was 10, but now is easy for me to talk about it.. but i cant resist crying whenever i watch news report about rape.?
2006-09-06 03:04:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
because it reminds you of how cruel and damaging rape can be.
2006-09-06 03:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Protecting Yourself
The best defense against date rape is to try to prevent it whenever possible. Here are some things both girls and guys can do:
Avoid secluded places (this may even mean your room or your partner's) until you trust your partner.
Don't spend time alone with someone who makes you feel uneasy or uncomfortable. This means following your instincts and removing yourself from situations that you don't feel good about.
Stay sober and aware. If you're with someone you don't know very well, be aware of what's going on around you and try to stay in control. Also, be aware of your date's ability to consent to sexual activity - you may become guilty of committing rape if the other person is not in a condition to respond or react.
Know what you want. Be clear about what kind of relationship you want with another person. If you are not sure, then ask the other person to respect your feelings and to give you time. Don't allow yourself to be subject to peer pressure or encouraged to do something that you don't want to do.
Go out with a group of friends and watch out for each other.
Don't be afraid to ask for help if you feel threatened.
Take self-defense courses. These can build confidence and teach valuable physical techniques a person can use to get away from an attacker.
Getting Help
Unfortunately, even if someone takes every precaution, date rape can still happen. If you're raped, here are some things that you can do:
If you're injured, go straight to the emergency room - most medical centers and hospital emergency departments have doctors and counselors who have been trained to take care of someone who has been raped.
Call or find a friend, family member, or someone you feel safe with and tell them what happened.
If you want to report the rape, call the police right away. Preserve all the physical evidence. Don't change clothes or wash.
Write down as much as you can remember about the event.
If you aren't sure what to do, call a rape crisis center. If you don't know the number, your local phone book will have hotline numbers.
Don't be afraid to ask questions and get information. You'll have lots of questions as you go through the process - such as whether to report the rape, who to tell, and the kinds of reactions you may get from others.
Rape isn't just physically damaging - it can be emotionally traumatic as well. It may be hard to think or talk about something as personal as being raped by someone you know. But talking with a trained rape crisis counselor or other mental health professional can give you the right emotional attention, care, and support to begin the healing process. Working things through can help prevent lingering problems later on.
2006-09-06 10:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's called empathy. It means that you know what someone else is feeling and that you are not afraid of your own feelings. It isn't a bad thing. As you mature, you will have more control over how much emotion you want to show, but try to continue being unafraid of your feelings even as you learn to control them. I'm not really answering your question, but I'm hinting at it. You know how it feels to be abused and you sympathize with others who are in the same situation you were in. That is much better than blocking your feelings, which can cause deep psychological disturbances. Stay connected to your genuine feelings and as time goes by, it will get easier. Your natural empathy will lead you to help others and then your challenge will be knowing how and when to help and keeping yourself safe while you help. There are others like you. Find them and create your support network.
2006-09-06 10:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by anyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because there is a difference between the emotional component of the event and your ability to intellectualize (talk) about it. Sorry for your experience, but keep up the crying, it's perfectly normal.
2006-09-06 10:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because you are a decent human being. I don't cry - I get angry and disgusted. You keep right on crying, but perhaps you should join an organization that fights rape in your area so you can fight back.
2006-09-06 10:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by Paul H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you KNOW what it feels like...you can watch the story and FEEL EVERY OUNCE of the pain the victim is going through...even when it's just a movie, you're feeling it...and wishing you could personally SHOOT the person responsible.
2006-09-06 10:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Crys H. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because you identify / empathize with the victim. I think that therapy will help you to realize that you are not helpless anymore, that it was not your fault and it will help you to regain your power...after all rape is more about taking away someone's power rather than the sex itself.
2006-09-06 10:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the memories tend to come back. It happens with every thing that has shocked us. You are still affected by it, you are strong enough to talk about it, but it doesn't mean you are over it.
2006-09-06 10:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are displaying sympathy for the victims. It is a horrible crime and your empathy is well founded.
2006-09-06 10:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your experience still affects you. I hope you reported the incident.
2006-09-06 10:11:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Memories.
You probably remember the torture you had went through
and you just feel so sorry for them it brings back those horrible,horrible memories.
2006-09-06 11:44:59 · answer #11 · answered by Ashley B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋