me and this particular guy dated for about a year and a half, and everytime we had a bad argument he always ended up over his ex girlfriend's house who he claimed was a psycho chic. He said he didn't love her but he was comfortable with her. She stood by his side for 8 years while he was locked up and has always been the other woman when he's been in other relationships prior to him getting locked up. Is he just using us both for a place to stay? Now he says he wants to marry me. He's also given me an engagement ring.. If I was to put him out , he would go straight to her and she'll take him in. Does he love her and not honest with his feelings, or does he just like his ego stroked and like knowing that she is still there?
2006-09-06 02:38:52 · 17 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
cause they cant think of the idea of being single again and go back to the fastest security thing they have....in my cause his mommy and he is 36.....
2006-09-06 02:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by bobsdidi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let him go to his ex because he never really let go of her in the first place and if he respected you he would have a long time ago him showing that he still goes over there when yall have a argument shows that he needs her to comfort him in more ways than you probably think so lose the loser and find a real man that will be commited to you and only you if you marry this guy just know no matter what he says she will always be around the corner to run to if yall have an argument and like you said if you put him out he would go to her you already know this so go ahead and put him out and let him go do yourself the favor or marry him and let him have his cake and eat it too and play the second girl for the rest of your life.
2006-09-06 02:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 00:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uummm u need to move on.. cause if he goes there when u put him out then he's probably going there while ur together.. many men do that cause it's a been their done that w/this chic already so if i go back to her it's nothing new and the ex allows it..
u need to have a sit down w/him and ask him instead of asking us, he might not tell u the truth (as all men lie), but hear him out and see what he says and let him know how u feel.. cause that is just straight disrespectful on his part.. if he cared anything about u then he wouldn't be going back to an ex knowing theirs a possibility that u and him ain't finish yet.. he's only thinking about himself..
and u shouldn't feel like u can't put him out cause u know he's gonna go back to the ex.. if u feel this way u need to leave him...
don't take his ring until u know where u and him stand in this mess u call a relationship..
2006-09-06 02:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him. He has double minded head. He has no strength to make a decision. He will be not fit with your life. There is no couple live with out arguments or different opinion from each other. Because of that all couple will not break up and will not go back to their old flings. This guy using both of you girls. He is self fish, and bitter minded person. Don't trust him. He will never gonna faithful husband to you. Their are lot of men in this world. Search a good person from them. Let him go away.
2006-09-06 03:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by mswathi1025 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some ppl are apt to feel that they can not live alone no matter what.
I had this girlfriend, No matter how much I told her It was over between us she would always tell me how much she loves and cares for me and would never let go. May be he is like that and wont ljust let her go and the both of you are allowing this abuse to continue. If I were u i would bail out.
I may sound like a coward or a narcissit but I come first . me ,Myself.
2006-09-06 02:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Elsalsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but if she was always the other girl while he was in other relationships, she probably still is. She is his saftey net, somebody he could always fall back on. I personaly could not deal with that. I would really think long and hard before marrying him. You dont want to get married, and then wind up divorced in a couple of months when you find out he is still messing with this girl. If you guys have problems, he should talk to you, not her.
2006-09-06 02:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first argument you have when and if you are married he will run to her...he just wants his pet to be stroked...find a real man that only wants you..not his ex...someone like me perhaps
2006-09-06 02:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ex-girlfriends mean nothing to a man unless the man does feel something about her. sorry about to say that but i think it is much more than ego.
2006-09-06 02:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by blackeagle81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he's a jerk. don't do it! don't do it! If he can't be fully faithful to you now, what do you think he's going to do when you're married. Married life is a lot more work then dating. He can't handle dating you -- he can't handle marrying you. Find a better man and leave the little boy to play with his toy.
2006-09-06 02:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋