are GOOD MANNERS AND MORALS DYING OUT?

Question

MY KIDS ARE BEING BOUGHT UP TO BE RESPECTFUL AND use manners i think they will learn morals ect but in todays sociaty are they dying out

i am 32 and my children aged 3-11years so i am not an older parent

is it bad parenting of todays kids causing this or is it due to the amount of kids having kids

Answer 1

I agree...and disagree.
There is a trend towards relearning manners and etiquette.
And its is fueled by parents like you and me.

Kids learn by example - so WE have to be on our best behavior.

But there is still a large percentage of people (of all ages and socio-economic background) who do their own thing, regardless of the consequences to others.

Cell phones certainly are the new rude-trend.
Aside from the poor driving skills when a person is yakking on their cellphone while in their car, notice how loud the average cell user is in a restaurant, a grocery store or even a house of worship!

Like I say, there is some hope.
The two links are good examples of how to raise respectful kids and what some college kids are doing to re-learn good manners.

Final comment: there is NO excuse for bad manners.
Here's a good example of using GOOD manners in a very difficult situation:

Winston S. Churchill was a punctilious man, in any case.
His letter to the Japanese Ambassador declaring war on Japan caused a minor scandal.
After saying the necessary ("Your Excellency, In view of recent events in the Far East, it is with deep regret that I must inform you that a state of war now exists..."), Churchill signed off in proper diplomatic style: "I beg to remain, Sir, with consideration, your most humble, most obedient servant, Winston S. Churchill."
There were complaints about this in the House of Commons, to which Churchill responded: "When you are setting out to kill someone, it doesn't do any harm to be polite."

Answer 2

I think so. Well, check out some books that speak about good behaviour from 70s, and you'll see that a number of behaviour models that were assumed as "polite" at the time, have no value today. For instance, it was considered impolite to make telephone calls after 9p.m., just some 20 years ago...or, how many men do you know that always take care to open the car door for you? Maybe it sounds a bit too much, but it is the same with other things as well...
Media and advertising dictate a completely different standards and ethic/aesthetic models - kids care what's "in", and not what's "stylish". That's the way it is...
In the other hand, with the number of courses for obtaining good communication, fast learning, success - new models of dialogue appeared - more direct and practical. I think that's good.

Answer 3

I agree with you . I am 32 and my hubby and I have 4 kids ages 8 twin boys , 16 yr. old daughter and 2 yr. old son. We teach them to say thankyou , please, hold doors for people, ask to be excused from the dinner table. They must say excuse me, if they need to interrupt when adults are speaking. THis is how we were raised. Today kids are different, but I beleive that if we teach our children right, they will make a difference. The parents and children of today don't care about manners, they feel like they should just "be themselves" and not carfe what others think/feel.

Answer 4

Sadly and regrettably I am afraid that good manners, common courtesy and chivalry are things of the past. I am glad to see that you are bringing up your children properly, but since the decline in standards has occurred many years ago, the majority of people of your generation were no longer taught good manners either by their parents or at school.

We are now a witness to the failures in our education system that no longer prizes good manners, chivalry and high moral standards and therefore has failed to teach or imbue those standards in their pupils or sons and daughters.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, yes good manners and morals are fading from today's society. People today don't value saying, yes please and no thank you as much as in the past. Its truly a shame because what's happening is that our children are becoming more disrespectful as a result. My daughter is 2 y.o. and I constantly remind her that we do not say "Yeah" but "Yes". I also do not use slang when speaking to her and will not allow her to use it with me when she gets older. Its fine for her to converse with her friends in that manner but I feel its a matter of respect to use proper english and good manners at home. Besides, she'll be able to use them later in society and hopefully be viewed as a proper young lady in the future.

Also, I think young men should be taught to hold open doors for ladies and to pick her up at her door and not just honk the horn and yell from the car. It shows a woman that she's valued. But women today are all so caught up on the "I can do it myself" that they forget its ok to sometimes demure to the man so that he can treat her like a princess. I hope that what I'm teaching my daughter will allow her to value herself very highly and demand only the best treatment from men.

Answer 6

Hell yes, can anyone recall seeing the last time a man held the door open for a woman, kids on the streets that actually HAD some manners, 10yr olds NOT stabbing grown men!

Welcome to England, the cess-pool of Europe!

Answer 7

I think they are. As i was being raised my parents drilled into me that it's important to be respectful towards people and to be polite, these days, especially with the amount of outside influences kids have around them and the termoil that so many families seem to be in it seems to me that being and raising polite and respectful children is not that much of a priority to parents. Just take a look around any shopping centre, estate in england, you can't move for ratbag kids acting hard and intimidating everyone around them.

Answer 8

Yes they are dying out!!! I was brought up to respect elders and your parents and thats what i am now instilling into my children,I think it all depends on the raising of the person or child that reflects whether or no they have morals..

Answer 9

Hopefully so. Your children will be strangers in a strange land. You will be stuffed and put on exhibit in a museum with a look of indignant self-righteousness on your face. Compassion will replace morality, joy will replace obedience and mutual appreciation will replace tolerance. Your children will be regarded as oddities and be celebrated for their uniqueness.

You shouldn't have asked if you didn't want to know.

Answer 10

I think they are.
My family is very pro manners but when I was in high school and staying at friends houses I couldn't believe what I saw. No one asked to be excused from the table no one said please and thank you. As far as morals go....they have been declining for awhile.

I believe that manners serve a very important purpose. It makes everyone feel respected and appreciated and I find it's more comfortable for everyone when they are used. We should really bring them back.