...and stop appearing so uptight?It's funny cause now I'm so aware of everything I do!
2006-09-06 02:26:42 · 14 answers · asked by Steph :-) 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Can you spend any time watching wild animals or birds? Look at their body language. They are chatting away non stop all day - and not a judgement in sight! Books that tell you about body language always make it sound like they are about to reveal everyones secrets and lay them bare. Yuk.
The point of body language is to reveal how you feel, and thats an effective and valid means of communication. You now feel uptight, but remember - not everyone around you is able to read body language to a fine degree! Most people can manage the big obvious stuff. And thats it. Plus you are not on display.
You have become self conscious. Relax, most people can't see what you can...!
2006-09-06 02:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you're uptight or relaxed, there's body language to indicate that. Your body language is evident no matter what you do or don't do to try and control it, so let it go! That's the only really honest way to live.
2006-09-06 09:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your motive is pure than why do you care? There should be nothing to hide. If your uptight than your uptight, take care of that and it will not show. This is a long hard road but the rewards are great. Good luck
2006-09-06 10:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Scott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a common reaction (myself included), to be suddenly aware of every movement you make after reading about our body language. I like to act in a way that feels most natural to me. The way I'd act on my first impulse, not after self-analysis. Think about it this way...regardless of how you act, each person may still interpret it differently. So, there's really no way to pose or unpose for a specific reaction to those around you.
Just be the most "you" that you can be. It'll come out right. :)
2006-09-06 10:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't seen a good answer to your question yet, so I figured I'd chime in.
When I was a kid, I was terrified of breathing. Yes, breathing. I was horrified by the fact that it was both an involuntary and a voluntary response (I was a nerd). But I was terrified by the fact that if I thought about me breathing, I'd have to control it, and in effect, force myself to breath in and out. I was so scared that I'd forget to breath, or that once I started controlling it by accident, that maybe I'd not be able to switch back to not thinking about it. I'd freak out trying to think of something else, but not stop breathing manually. Eventually I'd calm down and think about something different, but every once in a while I'd remember and start the whole freak out attack again.
I was an odd kid.
As for your specific question, I dunno. Honestly, sometimes I catch myself, and other times I don't. Just try to get into whatever moment you're in. Become emotionally involved with what other people are talking about and soon your body language will be all you, not you trying.
If all else fails, freak yourself out about breathing.
2006-09-06 09:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, attempting to not "pose" is the strongest pose of all.
Relaxation is in the eye of the definer, but there are numerous ways to become relaxed that are trivial to find, either on the Internet or in society.
2006-09-06 09:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself away..be yourself...
The problem is, people (specialy thoes who study psychology..etc) always think that there is a one ideal type of behaviour. But they don't know that humans are designed in many types and it's really really really hard to change this fact...thats why ise men says "accept who you are"...otherwise, you'll be in a deadly challange with yourself that might lead you to serious mental disorders.
2006-09-06 09:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by zee_muk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wasting time attempting to control you body language only makes the statement that you are trying to control your body language.
2006-09-06 09:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the thing about a body (and its language) is that it goes wherever we go. even if you feel like you are not "giving yourself away" you are still communicating something nonverbally. your body language might be conveying "i have something to hide". this is not meant to make you more self-conscious, but to open yourself to the possibility of communicating verbally what your body is already telling you about yourself. trust it.
2006-09-06 09:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by platypusjones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good you are restraining yourself by appearing positively but try it once a while not all the time. Finetune your behavior slowly or you'll look like a fake
2006-09-06 09:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by Baby_Apocalypse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋