approached me to make love or even get a hug, I withdrawl from her. We have talked about this, she told me maybe I don't love her anymore, and I told her I do love her, and I don't know why this is going on. We rarely make love anymore why? why?
2006-09-06 02:17:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you love her, but you are taking her for granted.Put down the tools, and all your many many chores.
Set the timer for one minute
you can spare one minute of you busy day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now, close your eyes and think about only her, and how you would feel if she got in a car accident, and you lost her.Listen to that country song "one more day, one more time" about a guy who would give anything to be with his wife for just one more day, because he lost her and he misses her.
She's not gonna be there forever, nobody know what could happen tomorrow.You married her because she is special to you, and you couldn't live without her. If she said she was gonna leave you today, I bet you would give anything to hug her.
do what I told you to do
sunshine (married 13 years)
2006-09-06 02:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by old & decreped 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is intiating the affection and you are declining it. The problem is with you, if you realize it or not. You know what the problem is, if you really think about it. You don't make love anymore because you don't want too, it is simple as that. Don't over analyze this. If you want to fix the problem fix it, hug your wife, make love to her. If you can't do that than you need to turn to the real reason you are turning a cold shoulder and shutting a door on your marriage.
2006-09-06 09:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by fire_side_2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that I can think of is, you love her but you're not in love with her. Sex can be emotional for men as well as women. Try to think of all the good times that you had with her or if you have kids, think about how great of a mom she is. Take her out to a movie and dinner or do whatever it is that you did when you were haing great sex. You have to accept what's going on and try to get back what you lost.
2006-09-06 09:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we are afraid of going deeper and finding true intimacy, By withdrawling, you are withdrawling from the possibility of getting hurt. Open up, don't be afraid. Ofcoarse you still love your wife, show it.
2006-09-06 09:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by nothing anymore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the two of you should seek some professional help. If the two of you love each other, and have no plans on separating or divorcing, then give it a try, it may be or help uncover the solution.
2006-09-06 09:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to figure out the reason for your low sex drive. Maybe you're on some medications, or suffering from stress etc. and you could consider professional help becauase her being constantly rejected will ruin your marriage.
2006-09-06 09:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you aren't so handy anymore. That is the worse feeling in the world...how would you feel if she did this to you? You better get some help for ur marriage.
2006-09-06 09:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that maybe you are just not physically attracted to her anymore? You may not even realize it. If you're not physically attracted to her, you wouldn't want as much to do with her as you use to. Just an idea.
2006-09-06 09:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you both learn to change your outlook and find new ways of spicing up, this can result in disaster!! You are more at the wrong side and needs urgent repairs.
2006-09-06 09:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stress could be a factor. Perhaps you and your wife should take a much needed vacation.
2006-09-06 09:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by Naomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋