Im a guy aged 25....and I regret to say that I haven't had sex yet. When I had a girlfriend, I missed two or three opportunities since I thought that would spoil our relation..........Now that we have broken up.........Im having an urge to have sex........Anyhow, I will be getting married within a year or two. Do u people think that I should do it before marriage??? will that be unfaithful towards my future wife???? will i feel guilty later on????? Please help
2006-09-06 02:14:43 · 15 answers · asked by shaft_the_only_1 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
What you did was absolutely right. having no sex with your ex is a sign of respect which nowadays is an endangered species. It would be much better and nicer if you just hold on your urges until you are married. It could be the best gift you could offer to your future wife. If you tell her the truth, she might even love and respect you more than ever. Take it from me!
2006-09-06 03:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by july 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main problem I see in your dilemna is the fact that you will be "unexperienced" when married to your wife. This may proove to be nothing more than a conversational ice breaker, but could also mean potential problems on the long run.
See, without experience, you don't know if what you are doing is "right" or "wrong" (pardon the expressions!), and of course, you don't know if you'll be able to properly satisfy your wife.
Now I am not saying you should cheat on your future wife... That's just ethically wrong. But maybe have sex with her before making the leap into marriage would be a good thing, just to get a taste and feel of what is to come. By the way, I am an agnostic and don't believe in remaining "pure" (i.e. a virgin) for your marriage; that's just puritanical hypocrisy brought upon organised religions.
Basically what I am saying is that in the past, many marriages ended up as "flops" because the sexual aspect of it was ignored, rushed, or the inability to communicate. Maybe if you and your partner are able to communicate your desires properly once you are married, there will be no problems at all, and your marriage will be a long and healthy one. But if you and your partner are unable to communicate properly your sexual desires and "wants" and "to avoid", your marriage may end up being a marriage of convenience as I call them.
Talk to your partner about your lack of experience. Just the reaction may be a clue (or hint) as to wear the level of open communication stands at.
Hope I helped you out a bit!
2006-09-06 12:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Times have changed
we are in the 21st century.
the messages before are from old ideologies.
would you by a car sight unseen.
Why not have sex with your wife to be, you do not have to be married to have sex there days. If both of you feel it's ready go for it enjoy the spoils of life.
But again it's up to how both of you feel.
not what others say, as this is a personal matter, not a community matter.
2006-09-06 09:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Juggernaut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is great to wait until you get married. It's only going to be your benifit. I had sex to another girl before I got married, and I don't care what other people say, but you do give of yourself to that other person that you will never be abel to get back again. Yes it is all spiritual, but if I knew of better, I would have waited. And in your case, you will getting married soon. SO rather wait, I can guarantee that you won't regret it.
2006-09-06 11:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by weeroppadc2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you waited this long why not wait till you are married and yes it would;d be unfaithfulness toward your future wife sorry don't mean to be personal but id the future Mrs also same as you ??? yes i do think you will feel very guilty, othe roption have you tried to open talk with the future Mrs about it
2006-09-06 09:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing , no need to have sex before marriage, just have a real love for your future wife , marry her, then enjoy the real pleasure of sex and love.
2006-09-06 09:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by R.M.IRAQI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're planning sex with your GF then it's okay, as long as you love her. If it means having sex with another woman so you're not a virgin, and cheat on your GF (I'm assuming you have one, since you're expecting marriage) you will probably feel guilty.
If you're just saying that you want to be married to someone, but haven't found her, and are unatached, then, you can sex with whoever you like, but it would be better if you love her.
2006-09-06 09:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mess up your marriage to be. Why let your life turn upside down for something as common as sex.
2006-09-06 09:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by cam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait! You've gone 25 years without it, I think you can wait one more.
2006-09-06 11:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No regretting, Sex toys are even better.
2006-09-06 09:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by tellmetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋