Guy #1--Been dating for almost 2 years and love very much but not crazy in love with. Is a very good boyfriend and loves me a lot and can support himself financially.
Guy #2--Was in a long term relationship with in the past. Was nice at times but could be very mean. No plans to work or go to college but we were crazy in love and still have feelings for him.
Who would you pick and why?
2006-09-06 02:11:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
fer me.. i would pick guy #1.. he loves u alot which should mean that he wont hurt you, let alone make u cry and suffer.. he can provide you wif wad you need, financially and emotionally. whereas guy #2 is only based on "crazy in love" which could mean that it wouldnt last and he may make you suffer, cry and wont be able to support you financially.. even worst if u have to work to support yourself + him and your future..
but everything has its ups and downs. you haf to choose wisely as this concerns your life and your future. people make mistakes, but if you have a choice, and you can see the obvious, i guess the answer rest in your hands..
sometimes it looks easy but its actualie not.. sacrifices af to be made..
2006-09-06 02:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by cutely sweet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be straight forward and an easy question to answer but I know it's not. this is my answer to you, stay with guy #1 and try to see all the things you will be missing if you leave him and at the same time tell guy #2 that you really do care for him but that in order to have you he will have to make sacrifices and change somethings because after all if ya'll are both the same as you used to be you know in time things will end the way it did before. What ever you decide you need to make the right decision for your future and what you see that to be. If guy #2 does not change then that means he doesn't love you enough and as much as that hurts you know your answer right away. I have been in your situation so your not alone with this problem. You have to think that also life is very hard sometimes and it doesn't make sense to couple with someone who will make it harder. Ask anyone that has been married, love is not enough to make something work that's why divorce is so high because people come together in love and think that love will get them through bills and kids. Stay strong it is not hopeless to get what you want you just need not to rush into a decision and be patient
2006-09-06 03:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pick guy #1. If he is a good boyfriend like you've stated, then that's the person you should be with.
The reason I wouldn't pick guy #2 is because you stated he could be very mean. That shows you that things will more than likely continue the same or they might even get worse.
Base your relationship on the respect you have for each other.
2006-09-06 03:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by laigarval 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you want guy #2 is because of the challange. We often like the challange of changing a man the way we want him to be and think that we could do it. There is more mystery with this type of relationship, but what will happen will either be that you will get him to change, get bored (because you completed your task) or you wont change him, be with him for years and then get frustrated and be unhappy anyway. I dont know why woman like doing it, we just do. (And Im not saying all woman do it) But I learned. Its not worth it. Guy #1 has the qualities and goals already that you would really like Guy #2 to have, if you could just change him...
2006-09-06 02:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a toss up but, I guess guy #1 would be my choice because, whether it's right or wrong financial status does affect our lives. And from your description guy #2 doesn't sound like he has very many goals in life and has treated you bad in the past and history has a tendency to repeat it's self. But maybe the reason you can't pick one is because maybe neither one of them is the right one for you. Listen to your heart and good luck!
2006-09-06 02:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would chose guy #1 because u love him but u can grow to love him and he actually has his head on straight for a productive future. Guy #2 seems like a bum, and he might use your love for him to his advantage which in the long run u will get tired of it and wish u had guy number 1.
2006-09-06 02:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would Choose guy one becasue his got VALUES in life.
The important thing about guy 2 is that you love each other you feel the same way about each other that's the most important thing. Except what he is. you both make each other happy.
I would say go for guy 2 . than being in a relationship that you know that you are not happy. you choose to be in a relationship because of what the guy he is what he has in life.
2006-09-06 02:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by The Shadow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would follow my heart..
I would like to understand if TO BE CRAZY IN LOVE you means.. having just a passionate and hot sex... that drives u crazy.. or you means that You cannot live without him???
If you will be able to answer at this question.. you will understand who pick up...
Good luck.
2006-09-06 02:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
guy #1 i had the same problem once just like this, if your guy#2 dumped you DEFENTILY go for #1 but #2 ended for a reason, guy # sounds very wonderful...he cares for you and will take care for you as for, so you should do the same for him. #2 he is HISTORY. Hope everything works out =)
2006-09-06 02:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by sogullablegurly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy #1, things will never be like they were with #2
2006-09-06 02:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by webster1305 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋