about my 14 year old daughter?

Question

last week I came home early from work, when I got in I heard a noise from the dining room. the house should have been empty, the kids at school and my wife at work. I sneaked upto the dining room door and then burst in only to find my daughter naked. I was so embarressed but my daughter just looked at me, I turned away after a second of so I was just like a rabbit caught in the headlights of a car. The problem is now all I keep seeing is her naked body and how developed she is. Should I talk to my daughter about what she was doing or not??

Sorry I worded it wrong, I don't keep seeing her in a sexual way. What I see frightens me because there are other people with her!!. I could never see any of my kids in that kinda way I'm their father!

Answer 1

Yes! Communication is key. Talk to her about everything. Relate to the things she does when u were growing up. Smile about it and lether know its normal. (unless she was having sex.) But whatever it is, be calm and understanding. Always know what she is doing. Just dont be nosey about it. be there for her. wait...youre her DAD?? No leave it to her mom. Tell your wife that you were concerned about why she was naked. Only if your concerned and she wasnt just dressing.

Answer 2

You said the house was suppose to be empty and that is the more reason why I don't see anything wrong in her nudity. What I see wrong is the fact that you let your mind duel on her naked body, that's so wrong. Does it mean that you would not be able to take care of her if she is sick and incapable of cleaning up herself. I hope you still remember that she is your little girl and no matter how old she gets, she would always be your little girl. You do not have to make a big deal out of what happened, just tell her casually to avoid situations like that as it would be embarrassing for a guest or neighbor to pop into the house unannounced and see her in such a situation. You also have to cross check everything else to make sure she was not doing anything that she had no business doing - like hiding her boyfriend under the dinning table.

Answer 3

Oh yes by all means, bring it up to her (like she's not already mortified), and be sure and tell her you think about her naked all the time. You most absolutely should make your discomfort her problem. I'm sure it also would greatly improve her life to know her Dad thinks about her in that way.
WHAT THE **** IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!
1. The time to say something was directly after, once she was dressed, and simply ask her to not do that to you again. It's too late to bring it up now.
2. You're the adult. Deal with it. It's not for her to have to help you cope. With anything.
3. If there were no boys, drugs, cameras,alcohol, then it's none of your business what she was doing.
4. If you're having "thoughts" about your daughter's body (you did catch the DAUGHTER part, right ?) then you need to talk to somebody - like another adult, your wife, a counselor.
It sounds to me like you're dying for an excuse to bring it up to her. You make far too big of a deal of this to be in any way healthy for you or her.
If this is for real, you probably ought to get away from her til you get yourself together.
I can't imagine you possibly thought anyone was going to tell you this is ok, so I wonder if you're really shooting for a reaction here, and made the whole scenario up.

Answer 4

Be a father.

If she was suppose to be in school, then the subject of why she was home, alone and unclothed in your dining room.

The subject of seeing her naked can be left alone. She is your daughter. Not a big deal.

However, I am getting uncomfortable with the way you keep seeing her "naked body" and realizing how "developed" she is.

That is something you are un-naturally thinking and should not be having these thoughts.

Answer 5

Yes because you never know what she was doing, speaking as a 13 year old girl i think its very important that you do! There are lots of things she could of been doing, or maybe she was just walking round the house like it because she couldn't be asked to get dressed or anything, you never know, so I think you should just bring it up casually with her or talk to your wife about it. Also, it's not that much of a big deal it happens all the time, and she'll be growing up now and you have to accept it!

Answer 6

you're over reacting. lots. She's 14 and has been with him for 8 months. If she is a sturdy youngster different than the oral intercourse section then I propose you provide her back all her stuff and enable her pass to the dance. basically set up some regulations approximately her boyfriend, according to possibility tell her that he's basically allowed over once you're living house and that if their in her room the door must be open. in case you do no longer enable her to do stuff like this she would have the ability to finally end up resenting you. you do no longer opt to lose her, so which you will have faith her with him. She sounds clever, I doubt she'll do some thing stupid. playstation : Oral intercourse at 14 is fairly ordinary, at that age hormones are loopy. i may well be pleased along with her for lasting 8 months with out having intercourse with him.

Answer 7

The first thing I would do is talk to your wife and explain what happened and the circumstances discuss it togother then decide if your wife should talk to her alone or if the two of you should talk to her togother as to why she was doing that in the dinning room a bathroom ,bedroom or hallway on the way to the above would be normal but she should have a least a towel or bathrobe on and whatever the two of you decide then do it dont confront her by yourself best wishes Gorbalizer

Answer 8

I agree with talking to the wife about it. It sounds like she's a normal kid that wanted to cut school. She figured nobody was gonna be home, so it be fun to try being naked around the house. Or maybe she was just masturbating. Who cares? It all sounds like normal development.

What worries me is that you seem like a pervert that's got a thing for your daughter. Please seek professional help and tell your wife if this is the case. It is not your fault you are messed up, but it will be your fault if something horrible happens or you don't seek help.

Answer 9

Lose the image of your naked teenage daughter before it becomes an obsession.
I would ask your daughter to be naked in her room or the bathroom only.
Sorry that you had to see that. Now things are going to be weird.

Answer 10

By all means ask your wife to have a quiet word with your daughter so that there's no upset or misunderstandings. It's not unusual or wrong to be naked in one's own home. She might welcome a woman to woman chat about her body or her sexuality.

Bedrose - what planet are you on?! Men should assert control over women?! Are you stuck in the middle ages or do you have control issues? Women are not here to be used, abused or dominated. We are all human and should be treated with respect.