Okay, tell me as a parent why teens SHOULD be encouraged to have sex?

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Can you give me any logical reason why a parent should encourage a teenager to have sex? I just don't see any advantage to it, and see a LOT of potential problems by advocating sex before marriage.

If you open the link, its to another person's question where they suggest that as parents we should encourage our teenagers to have sex.

23445, your post is very narrow minded and judgmental because you do not know my personal life's experiences or many other women and men who have seen first hand or through close friends the damage that is caused by entering into sex too early.

In contrast, I have met very few people who wish they had engaged in sex before being in a committed relationship, not just a high school one, but a life long commitment.

Answer 1

I can not come up with any logical reason to encourage a teen to have sex......I will say though that our attitudes towards sex and sex education is poor......As parents we must teach our children values-(no argument there), but we should also be able to face our children with the facts about sex......the pleasure the consequences etc....

In this day an age we can not afford to be shameful....otherwise our kids will be on the net going to Y answers to ask complete strangers about sex.........

Answer 2

Whoa, where did you get that? I mean with the way the world works now sex education is of the greatest importance. Also parents need to recognize the dire reality of the situation and at least be sure that their teen have access to condoms (reality - most teens WILL have sex, educated or not). But to go out and advocate it, tell them that is is okay, that it is the right thing to do? No I can't give you a reason for that

Answer 3

I can´t find any justification for a parent encouraging their teenager to have sex, especially if they are underage. I don´t care what anybody says, all it does is promote promiscuity. I know of people whose parents were liberal with them about having sex and guess what, they were all screwing at an early age, pregnant at an early age, or ended up with STDs.

Answer 4

I do not believe that promoting sex or telling their children to have sex should be encouraged. However I do strongly believe that an openess towards communication by talking about sex and issues should be encouraged. And education and unbias advice should also be considerd. I do not agree at all, with your religious intolerant last comment, about sex before marriage. This is psychologically unhealthy for a relationship. And I find this issue equally, if not more disturbing as the issue to encourage sex. When you are interferring with your childrens life, and pushing your own beliefs on them.
I would also like to know what historical, religious studies you have done, or your education on this topic, to feel you should push this beliefe on to your children, to feel you understand what marriage even means or the origins of marriage. To make your children know, so that they can then push it on to their children, without knowing why they believe it. Or where the history came from. If you or your children want to believe in Marriage then that is fine, but to try to push this on to them, is simply intolerance and is something looked at by your religion as unexceptable! Also when you are deciding for another human being (especially your own children) when they can have sex, then something very disturbing has happend. Also how do you think this behaviour will effect your teenager? They will immeadiatley rebel, and be more likely to have sex and many more things, if you push this on them and make them feel uncomfortable about speaking about sex, and feel contained in their own home.
A serious problem that is seen very often in religious families, is that Sex ( the one thing that is the only actual physical proof of Creation and a Creator, and the thing that the universe created us to do) is looked at as "Dirty" in their households, where the kids are taught to feel ashamed of sex and find it dirty. This is seriously psychologically unhealthy!
My advice is; if you genuinely want what is best and what is more advantageful for your kids, then simply treat them with Care, TOLERANCE, and rational unbias. Please for your sake do not let your fears come into this, and influence your decisions. As this will not allow you to come to decisions that are best for your kids or yourself. And will definately not be "advantagefull" to your kids or yourself.
Do you realise the Psychological or Scientifically proven problems, that are caused from people not allowing themselves to have sex untill they're married? Do you realise the problems it causes in the relationship? Have you actually stoped and thought logically; How does a metal ring (jewlery) make it alright for your kids or anyone to have sex? Also what makes it not alright for two teenagers, at appropriate ages who feel in love with eachother to have sex, and experience and learn in life. I wonder what age you were, when you had sex, or if you were married before you did so? I will conclude by saying this; You are acting out of care and love, however your actions are coming from fear and confusion, therefore clouding your ability to make beneficial decisions.
If you are serious about this stuff, and you are wondering what the right thing to do is; it might be worth your while to see a youth counselor, a psychologist or simply a young psych student at a Uni, and ask them or talk to them about it. They will be able to give you advice, and talk to you from a younger persons perspective, and from an unemotional source. If you act on emotions then you may not be helping and instead be causing exactly what you don't want! Talk to some younger, similar to your kids and unbias Counselors about it. Good Luck. :]

Answer 5

Reproduction. But than again theres enough orphans as there are. Erase that!

Answer 6

To prepare them to be good sex partners in future.

Answer 7

i wud never do that whnever i become a parent