Have been divorced for six years, alone for four and in a relationship for the past two years.
My ex-husband heard via someone that I'm in a relationship and all hell has broken loose!
I get phone calls - txt messages - letters. He comes to the house, hangs around where I work.
I spoke to the police but was told he's not being rude, aggressive or nasty. So...nothing that they can do.
I can't afford a civil case.
We have no children, he's been on his own since relationship ended.
2006-09-06 01:52:54 · 25 answers · asked by Dee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just to reiterate!!
I HAVE BEEN TO THE POLICE...showed them texts and letters, they said as nothing contained in them was bad, they could not act - if messages become threatening or abusive, then they can!
Court office have advised me the same.
I don't respond to him - should I ? I thought ignoring him was the best option.
2006-09-06 02:44:44 · update #1
if you're getting text messages and phone calls, change your telephone numbers and make sure he doesn't get hold of them....
never reply to anything from him
don't open the letters, just bin them
don't acknowledge his existence
it might be a major effort, but move house and don't tell him where you're living.
if you've been divorced for 6 years, alone for 4 and in a relationship for 2 years, if he hasn't gotten the hint after 12 years in total...er.. he probably isn't going to understand and is likely to continue.
2006-09-06 04:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by muppet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to know your ex-hubby is not leaving you alone.1.why did you end it in the first place.2.has he been violent with you.3.if you have been divorced for 6 year's I feel there's no way your having him back if your in a relationship.4.I'm frightened for you love because he's stalking you and if your not too careful you will end up depressed and thing's could go out of hand and the least everyone will say is SORRY and shrug there shoulder's.Go and get help and don't let what's happening to you ever happen to you.You have nothing to hang on to the past for,if you had kid's maybe for them you would go through all the pain and hurt.If you can't afford a civil case,go to the CITIZEN'S ADVICE AND GET THEM TO HELP YOU IT'S FOR FREE.OR BETTER STILL NO WIN NO FEE.Come on girl wake up don't feel sorry for yourself.your strong and don't let anyone tell you any different.You can e-mail me and talk to me if you wish to do so.BE SAFE.
2006-09-06 09:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about trespassing signs. You could but then up when at home at home and then say that he is trespassing. Then you might be able to do something. Also at work have you told the people that you work for about him. Maybe there is something that they can do to keep him out of there. You need to keep a record of everything and kept the text messages. After a while you might be able to get him for harassment. This way you have the proof to back up what you say.
2006-09-06 09:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dee if your in the UK the new stalking laws should be on your side also you can get a restraining order stopping him from texting calling emailing and coming within a certain space from you .If he breaks the order 1st court and fine 2nd jail..Good luck.
2006-09-06 12:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are british a solicitor can draw up an injunction to keep him away, if you ask for it on your initial visit to him it may be free (the first hour's work usually is - check first)
Keep records of text messages, letters, phone calls, ask neighbours to keep and eye on your house when you are out.
Keep a log of visits and what he says to you, it all helps
2006-09-06 08:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a restraining order. Call the court house. Explain the situation... that he's stalking you... and make it sound a little bit more urgent than "he's not being rude" Good luck
2006-09-06 08:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are no longer intrested in him and to move on with his life if not you are going to report him to the police as a stalker you don't need to go to court for that
2006-09-06 09:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Larry H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and talk to them now before it gets out of hand
2006-09-06 08:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by thecharleslloyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see the lawyer who handled your divorce. normally, there is a stipulation written into a divorce that prohibits either from harrassment. maybe this was overlooked in your case. your lawyer should give your paperwork to take to family court. good luck
2006-09-06 09:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provoke him and then get a restraining order....chances are the dude's got some serious issue's ...so better safe than sorry....Good Luck
2006-09-06 09:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by dew_fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋