2006-09-06 01:32:37 · 13 answers · asked by Marcella A 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If you can't do the time, don't do the crime.
2006-09-06 01:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Polo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In the sentencing phase of a trial, the judge may consider the character and the past actions of the defendant. This would be a good time to point to your son's school record, including grades and behavior. For example, you can tell the judge that he is a good student and he doesn't go to detention or get suspended. You can mention all of his community activities. You may also point out that he is not involved in a gang. Basically, you want the judge to know that this was a *one-time* thing and that it won't happen again.
If your son doesn't have a good record, the judge will be persuaded otherwise.
2006-09-06 08:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Without the fear of punishment, he will just go on to do it again and again and again. Obviously, being his mother, you love him deeply, but are by nature, biased towards doing what you perceive to be the "right thing" towards him which is not always "the right thing."
I go for the "cruel to be kind" way of looking at things. As someone said, if he did the crime, he's gotta do the time! Let him off now and he will think he'll get away with it another time.
Get HIM to write the letter, WITHOUT YOUR HELP. You have to look to the consequences of your actions by wrapping him in the proverbial cotton wool and trying to protect him from his own mistakes. Let him learn from them, it's the best thing a parent can do for their child. Perhaps too, search for the reason he went off the rails. Peer pressure? rebellion against the system? Marriage break-up? Dare I consider even...poor parenting? All these things could be factors in his behaviour. Don't fight the symptoms, fight the root cause.
Good luck, regardless.
2006-09-06 08:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by googlywotsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marcella, I thnk there is a lot of good advice here. But the first question I would wonder is, why is the MOTHER writing the letter instead of him. You did not commit the crime, he did, and that means that this letter should be his responsibility.
I would tell him that he needs to write the letter. You can help him with figuring out what he should write on it, but ultimately it needs to be his wording and his writing. You can help by double checking the spelling and grammar, but I can't see that having a mother's plea will help him.
2006-09-06 08:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're in the UK, you're in luck. Non-violent crimes usually end up with a non-custodial sentence. Normally there's either a fine to pay or some community service.
I used to work for a solicitors firm, and they always told me it's best if the defendant (your son) writes a letter to the judge themselves.
2006-09-06 08:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't write a letter to the Judge. Not only is it admitting that he is guilty of a crime that his lawyers are trying hard to convince the Judge he didn't do, it also looks sad that his Mommy is begging the Judge to lighten up on him. Let his lawyers worry about trying to get him a lighter sentence. That is what they are paid for.
2006-09-06 08:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by sdarp1322 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In writing to a judge on behalf of your son keep the letter brief, and to the point. It should cover such points as to your sons qualities and what steps he has already taken on his own to prevent this from happening again (therapy, support groups, etc).Do not suggest a specific sentence.
2006-09-06 08:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ricardo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son needs to write a letter on his own behalf. If he is unable to, and you have no other recourse, I suggest you check out the laws and ethics section of your local library and on the net to see what options are available to you.
2006-09-06 09:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not write a letter lady.....that will be presumed to be an act causing impediment in the justice delivery system. rather you can move a petition seeking mercy seeting out all the facts and circumstances which weigh in favour of your son.
2006-09-06 08:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Advice is, if you are a mother you may feel this need to ask for mercy. However I would definatly have my son write one too.
2014-08-11 19:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by sasafrass 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough love....
What is he doing to make amends for what he has done? He should be responsible for his actions. Let him write his own letter. Mommy has to stop bailing him out of situations.
2006-09-06 08:56:33 · answer #11 · answered by Cookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋