2006-09-06 01:29:22 · 25 answers · asked by dev_raj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love should make a marriage, but sex can break it! This includes not enough or sex outside the marriage.
2006-09-06 01:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely both.
In order for marriage to last there must be love in it. In time love changes and what stays is the mutual trust and caring for each other but it is still love.
And lets face it - sex is just as important as love. If you are not satisfied by the sex you have with your wife/husband, you will probably search for what you miss somewhere else at some point.
So that's why I think both sex and love keep a marriage.
2006-09-06 02:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Elize 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are important, I think...but.....I found an article:
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... not just a feeling.
2006-09-06 01:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment keeps a marriage. It's not a matter of love or sex.
2006-09-06 01:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by gelo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex has no meaning but making love does. When I was with my wife, we made love. There is a different feeling to it when you are deeply in love with someone. Sex will not keep the marriage alive, but making love will because there strong heartfelt feelings benind it.
2006-09-06 01:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by scheib65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it's
Mostly friendship ( your partner is your best friend )
Love caring for each other, and staying through thick and thin
Sex, enjoying the pleasures of each other
A good marriage requires all three to survive.
love fades, sex diminishes, but friendship grows stronger
2006-09-06 01:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by Juggernaut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both love and sex plays a very important role in relationships.
they go hand in hand and one cannot do without the other.
sex as far as i am concerned is an expression of love and when you make love to somebody you really love , the feeling you get is very different to when you have flings or one night stands.
2006-09-06 01:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE. My husband and I went through a period a few years ago where we didnt have sex but once a month BUT we're still together. You married for love, not sex right ?
If you are havin problems and want more sex or less sex, discuss it with your partnet. REMEMBER COMMUNICATION IS A MUST!
2006-09-06 01:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is the physical menifestation of love. therefore, love is what is the foundation of marriage.....but if you do not show it through sex then there are chances that your marriage will suffer
2006-09-06 01:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love - but they can both make a good marriage awesome.
2006-09-06 01:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋