Is it possible for someone to show unreasonable behavior ; bordering on MAD but only at home?

Question

My partner's says she's losing it. Time and time again. I am convinced she may be. But cant help wondering if she has these weird moments to disable me in some way?
She's smashed things in the house.
Cries for no reason at all.
Appalling memory.
Cant be sure if she's doing it to drive me away because I am the only one who's seen her "lose it" - its a big secret to her friends , family and work. After 3 yrs together - recently found she has been having eating problems too. Again this is all secret - I did nt know and LIVE WITH HER!!
Now I know about her bulimia habits she says I should understand because it makes her feel better!!!? Did I say - I dont think all is right here. Anyone with similar experiences?

Answer 1

Yes, it is possible that said person only shows this behavior at home, that doesn't mean that they don't have a problem. All it means is that they are disturbed but they can hide it from the rest of the world because they only see them for short periods of a time whereas they can't hide it from the person they live with because home is where they show their true colors ( they have been hiding them when they are not home). I feel for you man.

I'm sorry but it seems like you are in for a rough future with her, unless you can convince her to go get help.

Answer 2

WoW!!! properly i assumed MY husband became right into a mommas boy! you have married your self to an exceedingly immature mommas boy. The bible even says a guy is to leave his mom and dad and cleave to his spouse. you won't have the ability to stay as a married couple and make a kinfolk if he purely should be up below his momma perpetually. Is he nevertheless breastfeeding? according to possibility thats why he's there all of the time LOL. Sorry yet for actual, you will spend the the remainder of your marriage in opposition together with his mom in case you do no longer placed a end to it now. i'm coping with that now and its a no win concern. I truthfully think of you should evaluate different recommendations and look for a guy who's greater on your point.

Answer 3

Definitely been there myself. I internalize a lot of conflict. Most people think I am "happy-go-lucky", "the sweetest person I know", and "SO good-natured". When really, inside I feel like beating the crap out of people.

While not bulimic, I stuff my feelings down with food. (I always say I am "half-bulimic". I got the binging down, just can't bring myself to purge.)

Sounds like your partner has some emotions/issues that she needs to deal with. I would suggest counselling.
If she doesn't get some help, you should look for a support group for family members.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Are you sure she isn't pregnant and trying to cover it up?

I acted in the same way, very emotional, tempermental, couldn't remember anything, and I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant!

Otherwise I suggest she see's a doctor, could be something really simple.

Talk to her and ask her if there is anything you can do to be a better partner and see what she says, but don't fly off the handle if she DOES say something you don't really want to hear!

Answer 5

she does these things at home whilst with you because she can!!

she is most comfortable with you, or it's you she needs more attention from?

do you give her all the attention she desires? do you treat her well?

sounds like she needs something from you but instead of just talking to you and asking, she is demanding it in the only way she knows how.

ask her what she wants and needs. tell her to be honest with you, even if it hurts. it's the only way to resolve her issues.

if she doesn't know or cant tell you then maybe you could help her into counselling to wean it out of her.

she obviously has something to express. it's a case of what.

good luck i hope it all works out for you both x

Answer 6

Sounds familiar to me. My ex-wife went through the same pattern time after time. One time she threw food at me and the next day, completely denied it, despite the fact that there was dried food on the wall. Her sister is exactly the same way.... just worse.

The best thing (for her) to do is twofold: Get her on a healthy diet and exercise routine and read this book:
http://www.seekwellness.com/bookstore/books/book65.htm

The best thing for you to do is break it off because, if she's like my ex, she won't admit that there's anything wrong and you won't be able to do anything. You could end up depressed like I did. Get out while you have your health.

'nuff said?

Answer 7

encourage her to see GP and counsellor, she sounds as if she is suffering from anxiety and depression..

some of it sounds like I can be and I was when I had a break down (with out the bulimia) - lots of things trigger these feelings, she does need support, also MIND have drop in, you could look them up for her, it may help to talk, for you both.

Answer 8

If she really was losing it then she would have no control. She sounds like she can control herself outside the house. Shes doing it because you must be letting her away with it. Dont tolerate it and it will soon stop.

Answer 9

sounds just like my sister a few years ago.
once she left her boyfriend and his kids it stopped immediately.
she felt like the house was his and the kids were his and everything was his. she had nothing and what she did purchase with her own money the kids would destroy and dad didn't care. she was fighting to have a life. one of her own and one with her 'family' , but there was no family life, therefor, she had no life. once she left, she found her own life. now she's happier than EVER.

Answer 10

ive been married for 41 years...sometimes he is evil,,or,, our kids call him a freak..but anybody around,,,,he is a good person..nice x pleasant..