Our daughter is turning 1 at the end of the month and of course we are throwing a paryy for her. We live about 4 hours away from our parents and they all want to come to the party. We would love to have all her grandparents there but my inlaws are divorced and do not get along. My father in law is remarried. How do I handle this? Also, we only have room for one set of grandparents to stay. If my Mother and my Mother inlaw came there just wouldn't be any room and we can forget about my Mother inlaw and Father inlaw being in the same room. I don't want to deny any grandparent from attending but it's just not possible to invite them all!
2006-09-06 01:22:17 · 9 answers · asked by 10 pts for me? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My parents live close but I have a similar situation with the divorced grandparents. I just send invitations to all of them. Then I let both of the divorced ones know the other was invited too. It is up to them from there. If they can't get over themselves long enough for their grandchilds party then they can stay home. Sorry if I sound blunt. By the way it is my parents I am talking about.
2006-09-06 06:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by mommyofthree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to invite them all. Tell them all that they will not be able to stay at your house as you do not have enough room. Also tell them that of they can't get along for the party and your daughter for one day then they should not come. You can't invite one set of grandparents and not the other. Sorry if my response sounds harsh, I don't mean it to be that way. You just have to lay down the rules from the beginning. This is your daughters day and you are right to let everyone know that.
2006-09-06 04:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite all of them.
However, you should inform them first of all that, because of the size of your house, no one will be able to stay with you.
You should also inform your inlaws that the other set of inlaws will also be invited, and that if they attend, you expect them to be civil to one another while in your home. If they won't do their best to be civil, then they aren't welcome.
Get your spouse on board, and if they *don't* behave, politely tell them to leave.
But you should give them the chance to be there, and your daughter deserves to have all her grandparents doting on her and doing the grandparent thing (this is something you can tell them if they complain about the other set being invited). :) There's a chance they'll surprise you! Grandbabies are an incredible motivating force.
2006-09-06 04:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by kalirush 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously cant choose one grandparent above the other, so you have two options. Let them come and visit before the party and tell them its an all kids party. Secondly let them know you are inviting the other and if they are OK with coming. I'm sure that they are mature enuf to understand that they are both grandparents so they shouldnt deny the other the happiness of the first birthday. Dont have anyone staying over. In cases of choosing, it has to be "None" unless u can choose one of them and be indifferent to how the other would feel.
2006-09-06 01:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by manu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the grandparents need to be invited, regardless of any disagreement between them it's your daughters birthday. I would make it clear that you do not have room for ANYONE to stay with you, if they really want to be there they can go to a hotel. My grandparents used to drive 4 1/2 hours in December every year for my birthday.
2006-09-06 01:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is such a difficult situation! Is it possible to have 2 smaller parties? This way each side can attend, no one feels left out and your house would not be cramped. If not, then you will just need to follow your instincts and do what you think is right. If they cannot get along as adults for a few hours so their grand baby can have a great party, then maybe neither should come. I wish you luck!
2006-09-06 01:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite all of them, but let them know that your house is still the same size it was last time that they were there and that means there isnt enough room for everyone to stay there. so they will need to plan on renting a room at a hotel . im sure they will think its worth it even if they have to spend a few bucks.
2006-09-06 01:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by specialmama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of having 1 big party you should throw 2 smaller party's so all of your relatives don't have to put up with each other!
Its not your fault for their arguments they should have to sort something out.
Good Luck
2006-09-06 01:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sam<3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite everyone! Don't get into the drama of family dynamics - let them work it out. You have enough on your plate.
2006-09-06 03:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋