You have been his shoulder to "cry"on.He's made you feel like a queen.You've given him your undivided attention and he showers you with gifts.You see his wife walking down the street wearing dark glasses and bruises all over her face.He comes to you that night and complains how his wfe is such a horrible person.What do you do about the you seeing his wife with bruises.
Oh yes, he forgot to mention he beats his wife
2006-09-06 01:21:51 · 44 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him it's over before he starts treating you like you're his wife...
Alert the police of your concern...
Explain to your male family members of your concerns...
Change your numbers or block his calls...
Be aware of everyone around you at all times...
If he approaches you, tell him that you wish to be left alone and that you have informed the police, your friends, family, your employers...
If you happen to see his wife again, you might want to explain to her that you didn't realize that he was married and pass some friendly advice on to her- about how to file abuse charges!
2006-09-06 02:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought that maybe you're the reason she's getting beat? I found out that if he's got another woman, the wife usually gets unfairly compared to her. Of course the wife doesn't excite the man like the other woman does. And if the man is a ticking time bomb all she really has do do is ask how his day was and he'll take it as her not trusting him and beat her. You should get out of the relationship and stay away from married men. I've got a question for you, why interfere with someone's marriage?
2006-09-06 02:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this and honestly if I were you I would support his wife, like when he cuts her down or starts complaining about her make him see things in a different view - End this somehow, the sooner the better, eventually it will be you he is leaving bruises on. You could also confront his wife and let her know just what type of person he is and what you two have been doing maybe then she would have the courage to leave him- This is not good at all! Sorry you found yourself in this situation and I do hope youc an find your way out of it!
2006-09-06 01:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is an abuser
the pattern of behavior you describe, the gift giving..and attentiveness coupled with the fact that he physically beats his wife are clear indicators that this person is an abusive control freak. He will divert taking responsibility for his behaviour and dodge self blame by badmouthing his wife to others, he may even call HER the abuser.
Please, for your own sake...cease contact ...ALL contact with this man. He is a danger to you
here are some articles you may want to read
http://www.womansavers.com/relationship-articles.asp
you can profile him at
http://www.womansavers.com
and warn other woman from the same fate
don't be a victim
take care
S
x
2006-09-06 01:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just do him a final favor before you dump him forever by giving him a double-mule kick on his privates so that he'll remember it very well the next time he mistreats his poor wife or searches for a shoulder to cry upon, the cheating, lying s.o.b !!!
2006-09-06 01:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are totally nuts to even touch this one,take it from me,been there done that,once an abuser always an abuser,get out while the getting is good-oh and be careful cause when you do,you will probably be next
2006-09-06 01:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be devils advocate - but everybody is assuming that he did beat his wife (Which he may well have done) without actually checking if he did of not. She could have been mugged for example.
On the assumption that he DID beat her; have as little to do with him as possible.
2006-09-06 01:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Felidae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your own safety, leave him alone!! It's bad enough he'll cheat on his wife (no offense), but he's beating her too. Sorry to inform you, but you'll be next. He may be showering you with gifts now, but before long that'll get old and he'll be beating the sh*t out of you too. Get out while you can!
2006-09-06 01:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a man and I cannot understand how any man can beat a woman, let alone his wife. If you are the mistress, it would be wise to become his ex-mistress, and very soon, lest he decides to do to you what he has done to his wife.
2006-09-06 01:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he hits one woman he'll hit another unless he gets proper help. The fact that his wide is 'horrible' is irrelevant do you really want to be his next punchbag? The most caring thing you can do here is support him to get help for his marriage and himself
2006-09-06 01:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋