2006-09-06 01:19:58 · 22 answers · asked by saruchi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People start with best of intensions and eventually grow, all to often they grow a seperate way?
2006-09-06 01:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by ??Dani??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage gets boring because you let it, the same old routine day in and day out, sometimes it's a hole you can't get out of.
Do something new!!! Change your looks, try things you have never tried before, go on a little vacation, go on a picnic and talk! If you need help in opening up, play a game that will get you both to be open and intimate.
You need to be creative to avoid sexual boredom. Try a new location, rent a hotel room, experiment with new positions, buy new lingerie, rent a sexy video, try a hot bath, candles and a massage. Cast your inhibitions to the wind. And then get busy!
You won't be bored then!
2006-09-06 08:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... not just a feeling.
2006-09-06 08:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes two and it is all about what you put into it, if you put nothing in the bucket it will be empty forever. Try harder, do new things you've never done before, go places together you've never been, keep the flame burning no matter what it takes, it really isn't that hard... And it really is up to you if it grows boaring or not!
2006-09-06 08:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends from person to person. It depends on the temperament of a person to handle his/her married life. No doubt, one has to face difficulties as far as personal tuning is concerned, but one can easily sort out that problem by mutual understanding.
I can't say anymore as I am still a bachelor.
regards
2006-09-07 04:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by kamal112233in 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah people fall into their routine after sometime in marriage,,
the responsibilites, careers can b the reason for the people to live as if they r leading seperate lives.
but this doent happen always,, some couples even in their 60s are very happy with their marriaged life
2006-09-07 01:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people get lazy. people think they are gonna get married and poof its bore proof. Wrong. Marriage is a constant work in progress. Everyone goes through it. Are there any intrest or activiites you guys could do together ?
Just don't give up!
2006-09-06 08:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start seeing Priyanka Chopra under you and your wife thinks Salman Khan is in between her parted legs-things get boring.
2006-09-06 12:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage are not boring relation, it is a modifying relation, it depends upon man n woman. sweets are not sweet always. we should take some swore or tomato suss for changing the test
2006-09-06 11:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by sanat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't believe it because my is definitely not boring it's not perfect there's not such a think of a perfect relationship that why you have to worked on it every day if you want it to worked
2006-09-06 08:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋