i guess my father will die a day without smoking or drinking liqour...too bad for his health. he's old and yet he doesn't care about that! He hates being warned about how THAT habits affects his life...is there still Hope?does he has a chance to change though he's old now..? Please don't mind to share same story and how a father (you've known about) has gotten over it.
2006-09-06 01:09:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Nothing is "wrong" with your father....many men are fully aware of the risks of smoking and drinking, but believe they are the exception to the rules. They see others suffer, and worry about their habits, but find it easy to not face up to it. And nagging doesn't work, it just makes him feel more stubborn. It's kind of like knowing your term paper is due, and having your mother harping on it and still just not being able to go to the Library, when the Mall is so much more fun.
Men DO and CAN change, however. Often, they need to get really scared first or motivated. I had a friend who smoked 2 packs of cigarettes a day....then one day he had chest pains, and collapsed....yup...a heart attack. He was revived, and treated, but he knew that he had seen the end and suddenly became very good about his eating and immediately stopped smoking. Another friend who smoked heavily had the tragedy of his daughter dying in an automobile accident, and he and his wife were left to take care of her child. Because he cared so much for the child, he gave up smoking. He said he "Wanted to be alive for her wedding day." Happily he was!
People can change, it is just hard, and sometimes they need a good shaking up to see it. A wise man once said. "If nothing changes, nothing changes." Although that sounds silly at first, it really is true. Give your Dad a hug and ask him to stop smoking because you want him to live long enough to play with his grandchildren....it might just work!!
Good Luck!!
2006-09-06 01:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by David M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old your father is but, take it from someone who's been there, you won't change him.
Not too mention that if he's fairly old, 79+, it may do him more harm than good to stop smoking and drinking. The withdrawal symptoms may be too much for him to handle.
Thirdly, unless he's dangerous to himself or others, let him enjoy is life. He deserves it.
2006-09-06 01:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by vmmhg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, if ur father doesn't care to change for himself by now then why hold on to false expectations. I changed (stopped drinking, drugging, and smoking) not for my kids but for a longer time to be with them and my grands. My dad did the same thing he stopped abusing alcohol when he noticed that my mom wasn't taking it any longer and he'd be without those he loved most. That was his incentive, I had mine, ur father has to find his on his own. I'll keep him in my prayers and I understand ur pain from experience. God bless and keep praying for him God does preform miracles, if U believe.
2006-09-06 01:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if children understood fathers,and fathers understood children.....
there would be no such thing as sitcoms
2006-09-06 01:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by whydoesapenguin? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋