i have been with my boyfriend for 21 months and we are happy together. he asked me to marry him and i said yes. is it to soon
2006-09-06 00:55:48 · 18 answers · asked by SA angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are happy and 100% sure he is the one then go for it!! But if you're uncertain take your time. let it be a long engagement. I married my first husband because I was in love and thought he was the one. We ended up divorced 2 years later. I am now remarried & happier than I have ever been. Best of luck to you!!
2006-09-06 01:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you yourself could assess your feelings for your boyfriend.Too soon or the right time is not a question here. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, you guys have to talk it out, sometimes the fear of losing each other would lead you to marriage and same goes with too much excitement and the feeling of being in love. Others are in love with love and not the person, try to view things on a different perspective, weigh the pro's and cons then you can tell if you really are ready for settlement. Love is not what it takes and consider when getting married, you also need to be financially and emotionally stable before settling down.
2006-09-06 08:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Length of the relationship is not the most important factor. How well do you really, REALLY know/understand each other? Are you compatable on the major issues of life: having/not having children, spiritual/church issues, money, employment, your individual life goals, lifestyle concerns, sexual issues, in-law issues, personal habits, etc.
Unfortunately, we tend to not really know our spouse until we are, well, spouses! Some people can learn all they need about these issues within a short period of time. Some date for years and never really know. Some marry, and things seem okay, but then they "drop a bomb" and tell you-or you learn- they've been in rehab 3 times, slept around with a lot of people, have some disease, have a horrible relationship with a relative or someone else that negatively impacts your marraige, or worst of all, they told you they believed/felt this way about a specific issue, and then once "the knot was tied" their true feelings came out.
I don't mean to put a damper on marriage -I'm married. But it really pays off in the long run to know the one you're seriously contemplating a life-time relationship with. We all tend to put our best foot forward during the dating thing.
One of the best things a prospective spouse can do is do something that you know will anger the person just to see how they respond. That will tell you a lot. I'n not suggesting cheating on them or anything super serious with possibly life-time consequences, but find out. Many people enter marriage very angry even if they don't really know it. Anger, hot tempers, etc. can kill a relationship quickly.
Know yourself/know the person. If it's a workable thing and you really love them-and they you- marry!
2006-09-06 08:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by Tynes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swty..i don't think its very early...u have been with him nearly for almost 2 yrs now..i am sure you must hav known everything about him by this time..if i were to be in your position, i think i would agreed to marry him...but before that, make sure than you love him whole heartledy and its not just infactuation which most of the times happens to people of our age..If you feel like you are comfortable with him and if you have trust in him that he is capable enough to take care of you and ur children in future, i think u can go ahead....y i am stressing a lot on this is.,u gonna spend ur entire life with sombody..so that person shd be really responsible enough to take care of you.. its just not sufficient if he loves you...he must be financialy stable to take care of you and ur family..just true love is not enough to make your life happy...these are my suggestions to you..make sure that u ask these questions to yourself before marrying him...all the best sweety...take care...
2006-09-06 08:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by bryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy and wanna spend the rest of your life with him then no not at all.
Don't worry about what other people think, it is your lif you live it the way you want to.
I hope you and your new Fience are very happy.
Congrates.
2006-09-06 08:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Angel666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you have known him well enough and trust he is the right guy whom able to bring you happiness and good marriage life then time will not be any matter to your decision.
2006-09-06 07:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by vosy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you loved each other and you known in your heart he's the one go for it i married my husband 2 months after we meet it's been 8 yrs and we're still in love.good luck
2006-09-06 07:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u feel right? if u ask me, i hav to say tt both of u should b finanically stable and hav a career so u dun hav to depend on him or him dependin on u. age doesnt really matters. who cares if u are under 25yrs old or above. U truely loves him, he truely loves you and u r able to support yourself. Y not?
Gd luck and Congrats! take care.
2006-09-06 08:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter how soon he proposed, the question is do you love him and do you feel it is right. When in doubt pray about it, but if you are questioning it are you sure you feel right about accepting.
2006-09-06 07:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by passionparties_by_suzanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends do you really love him???? If you do, then do it.....but seriously if you arent as serious about him as you wanted to be, or that he is about you.....then dont do it, the last thing you need is to be stuck in a marraige where you only tolerate the other because you dont want to be alone........
2006-09-06 07:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋