Forgiveness?

Question

it's been years since i was hurt by my best friend.. it was over a really serious issue, but looking back at it, we could have ended the whole friendship in a better way.. i guess i hurt him pretty much too. question is, how do i know if i have already forgiven this person and vice-versa?? we haven't spoken since then but whenever i see him on the streets, i'll run away..

Answer 1

From you still think of how your he feel now, shown that you have forgave him. Maybe you just don't know how to break the conversation after not been spoken for so mang years, that's why you run away upon seeing him. Just say "hi" to him one day you see him, on the street, maybe you will find out he also already forgave you long ago.

Answer 2

Honestly, if you really want to know, you need to ask.
It's pretty obvious that you still love him. I mean if he was your best friend, there is love or at least devotion. It is still there since you are still concerned about his feelings and how he feels about you.
If you want to resolve it once and for all, instead of running the other way when you see him, walk up to him and say, "How have you been?" You don't have to take the leap right away, but you could just ask him how he's been.
If you get past that, asking "Where do we stand in eachother's eyes?" might be a little easier.
You just have to be prepared for the answer. It may or may not be the answer you are looking for. If he has forgiven you for your part in the conflict, it is then up to you to decide if you have forgiven him. If he hasn't forgiven you, you have to be prepared to have some hurt feelings.
I think you have at least partially forgiven him, though. Otherwise, I don't think you would be worried about it at all. If he is willing to meet you half way, you can work on the rest together.

Answer 3

You mustn't be revengeful
You have to be strong
To offer good for evil
Return right for wrong
We must not hold a grudge
And we must learn to endure
Then as God is your judge
At least your heart will be pure

Forgiveness is the mightiest sword
Forgiveness
Of those you hate
Will be your highest reward

When they bruise you with words
When they make you feel small
When it's hardest to bear
You must do nothing at all

Forgiveness is the simplest vow
Forgiveness
Of all their crimes
Is your deliverance now

Bless those souls
Who would curse your name
When the last bell tolls
You'll be free of blame

You can continue to grieve
But know the gospel is true
You must forgive those who lie
And bless them that curse you

Forgiveness is the mightiest sword
Forgiveness
Of those you fear
Will be your highest reward

The time will come when we will leave this world, and the injustice and
the pain and the sin will fall away from us, and only the spark of the
spirit will remain--returning to God who created it.

You must never lose Faith
You must never lose Heart
God will restore your trust
And I know you're afraid
I'm as scared as you are
But willing to be brave
Brave enough for love.

Answer 4

Well, you can know you've made substantial progress in that direction when you are able to say not 'he hurt me', but rather 'I perceived his actions in ways which were painful to think about', and have found other, less painful ways to perceive the situation. When you wish him well, just on the basis of his human dignity. And, of course, when you stop running the other way when you see him :>

And the only way you'll find out if he's done the same is to ask - which again would kind of necessitate even much more than merely not running the other way when he crosses your path...

Answer 5

I have found that unforgiveness is kind of like a tumor. Once you forgive that person, it is like the tumor has been removed. However, after any surgery it takes time for the wound to heal. If you can think about this person without any thought of revenge, etc., I think you have forgiven them. Remember that it will take time for your emotions to heal, though. Sometimes even years depending on how deeply you were hurt.

Answer 6

it sounds like this person is still very much on your mind how do you feel in your heart about the situation? another solution would be to talk to the person on neutral grounds maybe you can come to a solution you and your friend can live with.

Answer 7

dont run with ur fear the more u face ur fear the more u will get confidence.so talk to him when u met him and sought out all ir problem with him
al d best 4m ur unkown frnd

Answer 8

Why do you run away you need to stand your ground and see what happens .

Answer 9

ooooooooo thts 2 long slytherin. good kep it long.lol