Me and my ex broke up not long ago he 25 Me 18, i've been feeling under the weather and my flatmates girlfriend picked up on it, she took me to the docs and got a pregnancy test done, found out im pregnant. My ex doesn't want kids and i'm still in love with him i dont want him thinking i'm just saying it to make him take me back, it'd be for the wrong reasons us getting back together, how am i going to tell him is the hardest thing, finding those right words PLEASE HELP ME!!
2006-09-06 00:40:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How about saying, "I hoped we could just break up and be done with it, but I just discovered that I'm pregnant."
or "I respect the fact that you've gone on with your life and I have something that's really difficult to tell you. I don't want you to think that I want us to get back together, but I need to tell you that we're going to have a baby."
You're right - don't get back together with him for the wrong reasons. It will be worse than being on your own. You'll need to work out child support issues and visitation, but there's time for that.
Take things one step at a time right now. Get support from people who you trust!
2006-09-06 00:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by IVF Expert 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid that there is no easy way to tell him, however he needs to be told as he must support this child financially, I hope that he will also take an interest in this baby, but don't even hope that he will want you back. Why didn't you use contraception, at 18 years old do you think you are really mentally prepared to be a good parent ? You haven't even begun to live yet, I would think about this situation very seriously. This certainly demonstrates the pros of not having sex before marriage. All good things are really worth waiting for and believe me if a guy loves you he will wait. Good luck.
2006-09-06 08:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "I know I'm very young and immature and you are too for being with a child, but I'm pregnant. I know I should have listened to my parents and not slept around with people, especially people who don't care about me, but I didn't and now we're going to have a child that neither one of us is going to be able to take care of. I hope you will be here with me and help, even if we're not together, because this child is both of ours and needs two parents that are on the same team to take care of he/she. We need to go to counseling, pregnancy classes together on our off days from WORK. I'm sorry that I couldn't close my legs or insist on you wearing a condom or me being on birth control."
Just tell the truth!
2006-09-06 07:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say "Well, it was obviously unplanned. But we are having a child together."
Let him know that you are going to have the child. If he wants to be a part of the childs life, that would be great, but let him know you dont plan to pressure him into it. Then he would realize that you are not "trapping" him if you make it easy from the get-go.
Then decide - do you want the the child? Are you going to give him/her up for adoption?
2006-09-06 07:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First think of the child that you're expecting. You're 18, what kind of life can you provide for it. Then go to your ex and tell him that you're expecting his child and don't know what to do. And then you will see what his reaction is and go from there.
2006-09-06 07:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, you both made your bed now lie in it.
It's not the baby's fault you both couldn't control yourselves.
Give the baby away for adoption at least the baby will be cared for properly and try to control yourself next time.
2006-09-06 08:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jst go 2 him straight nd tel him dat u r pregnant. he wil believ u. show him the reports of the doctors. he cant deny the fact that he didnt made out wid u nd if he cnt deny it den he cnt evn say tht it is nt his child.no body cn help except ur ex-bf. so widout thinking anythin jst go 2 him nd tel him ur problem.
2006-09-06 07:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth if he doesnt want kids thats his loss, even if he doesnt want to get back with you tell him he needs to be there for the baby atleast
2006-09-06 07:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make him understand that you didn't get pregnant yourself and that you would very much appriciate him being a part of your baby's life.
2006-09-06 08:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through a lawyer.
2006-09-06 07:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋