I have been with my boyfriend 2 months and we really love eachother and asked me to marry him. I said yes but I am now thinking is it too soon even though I can honestly see myself with him in many many years to come. He is in the Army aswell based in Germany and I don't know if that has played a part in influencing my decision... Help!
2006-09-06 00:39:48 · 23 answers · asked by brumbeep 2 in Local Businesses ➔ United Kingdom ➔ Other - United Kingdom
When both sides agreed to get engaged... if one party are not prepared, there's not a need to force them...
2006-09-06 00:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by dada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong time, people may say it is too soon if you have only been together 2 months. But if you feel that it is the right thing to do then you should always go with your heart, getting engaged doesn't mean you have to get married straight away! You could just take it as a sign of commitment!
2006-09-06 07:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Emma M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to maintain the engagement, fine. It doesn't mean that you need to get married right away. Long engagements can be good and your hesitancy suggests that it was indeed too soon. Perhaps you need time for the initial sexual infatuation to cool down so that you can really see if you share enough in common. In the rush hormones accompanying sexual attraction we often neglect to look at the practical aspects of the relationship. Having interests in common, agreeing on how to rear children or whether to have them, looking at where you eventually want to live, how do your spiritual beliefs compare, how do you look at and handle money? All of this counts over the long haul. There are lots of people out there who you could make a relationship with. Be sure you've selected one that fits you.
2006-09-06 07:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Magic One 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you love each other an dcan't imagine being without him ever. I got engaged within 6months, but we talked about it after around 4 and tried to put it off, but eventually couldn't find a reason to do so. I can't imagine being with anyone else and we love each other completely. A long distance relationship is hard, as would be the potential moving about if you married, but a good relationhsip can work through this. Follow your heart and be happy.
2006-09-06 07:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents got engaged 1 month after meeting each other!
They are still married now and have been together over 26 years!
Just because your engaged, doesn't mean you have to rush to get married. Take the time to get to know one another properly before you make the next step.
2006-09-09 04:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be engaged for a long time, but you should go for the actual marriage only when you feel 100% ready and certain that is the right choice, which doesn't seem to be your case at the moment, so don't rush into anything and take your time.
2006-09-06 07:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by justastranger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest only you can answer that question if you think its right then go for it as you dont want to have the regret of not knowing if he is the right one for the rest of your life i knew my wife for 9 weeks and we got engaged we been together 35 years now so i t can work out. set a date for your engagement like this new years eve a special day and will give you both time to get use to the idea good luck to you both hope you are happy together for a long time
2006-09-06 07:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by bojomarriott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in a very similar position. if you arent sure..but you love him. stay engaged buton get married when you are 100% ready . you also need a lot more time together before you get married especially since you have only been together for 2 months. just take things slowly and things will happen when they are meant to.
good luck
2006-09-06 07:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by SA angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know you t askoing age or anything else.
My opinion is age: 21 and above.
He is in the army so you may have many time without him.
Just ask your parents. they can give more advice rather then any other person. Even more then me!
2006-09-06 07:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by Easy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too early! you two barely know each other, stay engaged but put the wedding off until a more appropriate time has gone by and you both are sure of what you want.
2006-09-06 07:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋