do u think children who have been bought up in care can ever be trully happy :(?

Question

i was bought up in care and have never ever been trully happy

Answer 1

we fostered a little boy for 2 years, who was reunited with his parents. it messed up the whole family ,and when they were all together again it was difficult again as 4 kids had all been in different homes and had to adjust again .

i am sure some children must have good care memories, but not being with your real family must be difficult ,even if they were bad parents. mostly because as a child you have the reality of it, but then also have to deal with other children and their reactions.

if you are an adult now, you can make a change and decide to live your life fully and happily. you should definately have counselling, as there are many available. give yourself time to work through it, but be working on a game plan all the while which will enhance your life. my friend was brought up in a rough situation, andher brother has landed in jail , but she has decided that she wanted to do the opposite for her family. she is a great mom, so don't presume that you will be no good.

my heart really feels for you and i hope you see some rainbow soon. all of us are worth it. who knows maybe you will be able to inspire others as you know how it has affected you.

Answer 2

this is ordinary to experience like that cuz from what u reported this sturdy information is often observed by making use of undesirable information after a at the same time as. yet u could get exhilaration from the 2nd and whilst and if the undesirable information comes returned (there's a great possibility it wont tho) u can handle it cuz u already be attentive to how astrong u are and whether u think of u dont have a combat inu it is going to floor up whilst and if u want it. Happiness and laughter and positivity can help triumph over maximum cancers too. according to possibility u desire a holiday as a kinfolk some thing which will make u experience ordinary returned. conversing approximately this is sturdy for u according to possibility a sturdy chum ought to hearken to u out and share ur fears and attempt to be certain the advantageous in what u think of is all adverse. you're all being given anew possibility as a kinfolk so seize it and luxuriate in it sturdy luck

Answer 3

Well I fully understand what you mean, but it is too great generalization to answer your question negative!
It depends on the cares and on the person...
Dont take it as an offense, but you probably don't feel trully happy because you prefer thinking about past and having everything given and for granted,
why don't you try thinking about happiness out of this frame, and you may realize that there is much happiness you have not experienced, and u may even discover your parents' cares were not acatually such great deal...

Answer 4

I feel for you. My mother was in care, along with her sisters. She made my life hell, so in a way, I know what is't like to be rejected too.
I'm still struggling to come to terms with my mother and the things she did - it's always someone else's fault. PMT, the Home. The Church - never ever her. I'm actually quite sick of having to think about all the things she went through and the fact that I'm supposed to be "so lucky" not to have grown up in care.
I think you should have counselling. And allow yourself to be angry. I found that quite liberating, putting myself and my feelings first.
You have every right to be unhappy. Along with a few other million people on this planet. Get help.
And I'm happy to listen if you want to rant.

Answer 5

I very happy, i was in care for years, came out at 16 got myself to University at 18 and did History, I am married and have 2 great kids, i look back at the time when i was in care, i think it made me a strong person as i had no one to do things for me but myself, put it behind you and go forward, don`t let it spoil your life

Answer 6

depends on the care they recieved, the cause for the break with their family, any continued contact they have had with their family, and how long they were in the situation they were taken away from, and that persons determination and ability to bounce back. I've worked in a children's home and have seen children who will never be free from their demons, and some who will grow up to have a great life. If you're really struggling please contact your GP for help. Good luck to you, I hope you find what you're looking for.

Answer 7

I would like to think so yet i have to admit that everyone i know that was brought up in care suffers from depression or worse.

Answer 8

i wasnt brought up in care and ive never felt truely happy, its as though theres always been something missing.

maybe its just the way we are all individually programmed...who knows xx

Answer 9

no because they lacked love from a parent

Answer 10

NO b'cuz they are attracted towards lust