under age sex?

Question

my son is have sex with a girl of 14 my son is 17 the girls mother knows about this and lets them sleap together in her house i have got on to the social sevices but they wont do any thing

Answer 1

I think that education & open communication are key here ... I would advise going to a sex clinic & equiping yourself with as many facts as possible, the dangers, the risks & possible future regrets. Invite the girlfriend around informally and have the three of you sit, like adults & talk about it. It's not an easy topic for a mom to discuss with her son, but it is a necessary one. Remind them that sex is a very adult activity and therefore carries very adult resposibilities. Try not to lecture or talk down to them, you want to try to be in control & discuss things in as adult a way as possible. If you had your son out of wedlock, not that I'm saying you did but it ..., then talk openly about the difficulties in raising a child on your own. You need to make the dangers real to them. Maybe the clinic could loan you one of those fake pregnancy bellies, you could maybe let the girl wear it for an hour or so around the house, maybe you could try the route some American schools are going with sex-ed, carrying around a heavy bag of flour or a doll that they would use to go through all the motions of looking after a baby. Remind them what they'd miss out on if they were to become parents at this stage of their lives and that no contraception is fool-proof. A lot of folks seem to go with the "kids will be kids" mindset here, but this isn't about kids being kids, this is about kids trying to be adults, and that ain't right.

As for those who only answered this question to criticise spelling & grammar ... shame on you! Nobody is perfect, English might not be her first language. I agree that people are generally lazy & careless with spelling & grammar but how about a little compassion here. Isn't the purpose of this site to learn & encourage?

Answer 2

Forget about the social worker for a while, have a talk with the girls mother and also with your son a boy of 17 nearing the age of 18 and having sex with a 14 yr old girl is rape and he could get himself in to a lot of trouble. Soo.......

good luck with it all!!!

Answer 3

Social services is a very dangerous game as they can stand on both sides of the fence and if you cause too many issues, you will ultimately be blamed.
Personally have had similar issues with my daughter, ensuring protected safe sex and perhaps a visit to GP if you know they will talk and are of that nature (some G|P's do not spare the proper time we all know) Talk to your son about the possible results yourself and ensure he is protecting himself, his girlfriend and any future and perhaps some sites that have legal implications and news stories could also be of assistance to ensure he understands fully the entire picture.

It is difficult when your morality screams 'stop' 'dont' etc but at the end of the day you also have to begin to see it from all sides and cut out your own feelings for want of a better word to ensure also you do not end up being isolated from any of their lives, the worst thing I believe you can do is to be too staunch or else you lose all of your good influence!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

GET OVER IT! this is a HUGE over reaction, by you and loads of the replies i have read. Your son, at 17 will be having sex whether you like it or not. This gril at 14, will also be having sex whether you like it or not! If he likes her and she likes him, dont try and stop him because you'll just be pushing him away.

I'm 18 and i know you think that is why i have such a view, but you sound just like my mum. Ive been sleeping with my boyfrend since before we were together (8 months) hes 2 years older that me and my mum can't even accept that. She doesn't let me sleep at his house so i LIE to her about it. I don't like it, but i think shes a bit mental for not letting me stay there.

When i was 14 i was not having sex (15 probably) but all my friends were and now-days you are just going to have to accept that the view of society (teen society) is to have sex it's fun, not don't do it - it's illegal. Nobody cares!

Answer 6

to be honest mate,getting social services in, is not the way to go. The girl is aged 14 and so yes she is under age, but at the end of the day it is her parents responsibilty to talk to her. If the girl concented then there is nothing to be done. I would suggest that you talk to ur son,make sure he knows what he is doing, and just take things slowly. If you get the social services involved then things will blow out of proportion.Trust me i am 19 year old girl, and if my parents did, it would make me more determined. hope this helps a little.

Answer 7

1st of all learn how to bloody spell, where did you go to school?
And on the issue at hand maybe you either need to talk to your son and find out whether he's using protection, maybe the daughters mother actually trusts her daughter enough to let them sleep together, and another thing woulnt you prefer your son to be having sex in a safe environment and using protection than in a park on some bench with no protection or in a car or wherever at least you know hes doing it under a roof with an adult there and using protection?

Answer 8

Don't threaten your son or do any stupid moves. Talk to him about contraception and all those other important things. Sometimes when you're 17 you need to make a few mistakes. I know I made my own and am a better person thanks to them.

However, if you want to do something about it, I suggest you talk to the other mother and threaten her with police action. The other mother is aiding a crime, so she'll go to jail for it. Most people in this country tend to "react" once you mention the police.

Answer 9

Hello? Is anybody there? How about YOU do something about it? Jesus, no wonder this country is inthe state that it's in when all people can do is shrug their shoulders and say "it's for somebody else deal with".
You blame the social services and the girl's mother for not doing anything yet the best you can do is type a question on Yahoo. Get a grip matey.
Grow a backbone and sort your idiot son out yourself!

Answer 10

If your son turns 18 soon, he could have legal problems. In some states, an 18-year-old having sex with a 14- or 15-year-old is statutory rape (a serious felony). If the girl's mother approves, there may not be much that you can do.