What to do with my 7 year old who does nothing but disrespect me?

Question

i have felt like i have done everything to fix this problem and at the point where i'm ready to disown her. I feel absolutely hopeless

i love my daughter very much

Answer 1

Is she having troubles at school? Are you currently married? If so are you two having problems? Is there a lot of screaming in the house at each other? It can be a multiple of reasons for her acting out this way .. it could be simple act of getting your attention. I am a big believer that sometimes family counseling is something that can be very beneficial. I really do hope that things get better for your daughter and your sake, especially for sanity purposes.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 2

There is a huge problem in todays society with this very issue.

My advise would be DO SOMETHING about it now before it gets worse because there is 100% chance it will from what I have seen.
In other words, make her aware of you being in charge and do not back down. Stick to your rules if you have them and if you don't make some and go over them with her and tell her how you want things and that she will be punished for not obeying.
FOLLOW THROUGH WITH THIS. Put the list where she can see it at all times. You have to stay in control of the situation.
Also, for instance if she does something you tell her not to,
make her sit in time out for 5 minutes until she apologizes to you. If she doesn't make her sit another 5 minutes. And keep on. It may take a few days but this works. Children need discipline and that is the biggest factor here.
Also, reward her and praise her when she follows through with what she is supposed to.
If she has been really good all day, promise to take her to the park or to get a ice cream cone or whatever you think she likes to do. Again, follow through with what you say you will do and spend time with her.
Let her know you will not tolerate her behavior.
Have you watched the show "The NANNY"? It is awesome and deals with problems raising children. God Bless you and Good Luck.

Answer 3

i am wondering why? such 7 year already know how to disrespect you. however some child nowadays having such animalistic attitude. Try what the super Nanny were doing. Try not to give what she wants unless she behave. Try to remove the her most love toy as a punishment for not behaving well. Put her on the naughty chair. Always say no to what she wants until such time she respects you. Maybe you are showing so much love.....everything that excess is also not good. Even at her age show her a good example. Pray and bring her to the church.

Answer 4

if your daughter seems out of control and she is the 1 who tells u what she wants ,or hits u,or throws tantrums in shops if she can;t get her own way

it is very hard and i bet u feel like spanking her, what to do is set out a punishment programme by taking away her privilages eg, no treats no pocket money no contact with friends no tv ect.
also have a naughty step or room ,eg her bedroom and leave her in it for 7 mins as she is 7 yrs old, she will try and try to get away and will throw tantrums,take her by the hand and put her straight back in without saying a word to her and tell her that once she stops behaving the way she is she will get out of the naughty place and that all u want her 2 do is 2 sit quietly for 7 mins there is a lot u need to do you can contact me by email for more top tips angela [e-mail]

Answer 5

You have to be very firm with her and follow things through. My daughter was the same as yours so I know how you feel.
When she doesn't do as she is told or she misbehaves, take something off her that she loves. Tell her that each time she is naughty you will take something else and she won't get them back unless she earns it by behaving.
You have to be more assertive and let her know you mean business. You have to take back control of your home now otherwise it will just get worse.
Make sure you follow your actions through every time, that way she will learn the consequences and start to think twice before doing, or not doing things.
It takes time and alot of effort to do this but it does work.
Children need to know their boundaries so make some!
My daughter is 10 times better than she was before.
She knows her boundaries and we have alot less tantrums.

Answer 6

This little peoepl can be very anoying sometimes I know so . Any way she is family I suggest you get soem professional advice as for how to handle that problem in a way that will enlight both of you since it sound a litle extreem to me to disown her she is seven years old, you will have enough time for that later.

Answer 7

Be strong with her. she needs to see that you mean business. follow through with punishments and reward with praise and hugs every time she is good or has been doing good work get her involved in the things you do ask her to help you cook tell her you need a well behaved little chef. don't let her eat to much sugar and get vegies and fruit into her make it fun..
if all this doesn't work then you need to see a professional, she might have something wrong with her that with a few diet changes or proper counseling could improve her behavior

Answer 8

Stop giving in to her, most children these days have little or no respect for their elders, probable cos we aint allowed to hit them when they misbehave lol, but it usually stems from the 'anything for an easy life' attitude. Kids need good, solid boundaries, they need to know who is in charge. Dont lose ur rag and shout at them, it lets them see they are successful in getting to you, take away their favourite toy, game etc instead, its amazing what missing out on his ps2 did to my 6 year old!! If everything u try fails then maybe its time to enlist a child psychologist to help out

Answer 9

Hate to tell you this, sweetie, but the problem is not with her.....it is YOU!! You need to go to parenting classes or at least get some self-help parenting books and grow a spine! Unless YOU change, you and she are headed for a miserable life. Ask yourself 'Who is the parent here?" At this point, I would say she is running the show!

Answer 10

You should not disown her.. She's still young and maybe she's not guided that well.. try to talk to your daughter, or you can enroll her to a certain instituition where they can train her and teach her a lot of things like proper values and other nice things...