Pregnant and scared to tell my parents please help?

Answer 1

i was 17 when i first fell pregnant. And to say i was dhit scared was an understatment! I bit the bullet and told my mum by asking her what she thought dad would say if i told him i was pregnant. She asked me outright if i was so i told her. I said i was too scared to tell my dad, and could she do it which she did. Dad was great, put his arms round me and told me not to be scared and that he would always stand by me no matter what.
I know im one of the lucky ones, but your parents might be the same. they might suprise you!!
Good luck

Answer 2

This is a problem here....

How old are you? Are you below 17? if yes, i guess sooner or later you have to tell them, y not now. Yes, it would be very hard, the reaction would be big, extremely big but y not, i mean there is life of a baby involved, this is no game its the matter of life.

I advice you to tell the person who you are pregnant with, if the guy doesnt want to take the responsibility and the titile of the father, then your family is the one who is going to help you. It would be absolutely hard, but you have to tell.

If you are above 17, then tell them, its not like you are going to live wth your parent money, who work for it. But telling your family will really help, as you'll get advices and etc....

There is nothing to be scared about, what has been done cannot be undone, now you have to face it.

Answer 3

You should tell them. You should think about what you want to do about it first though. i.e. keep it or not. Think about what sort of questions they will ask you, who is the father? etc.

Expect them to be angry, then if they are you will not get phased, if they are not angry so much the better. Do not turn the conversation into a row. If they start shouting just say I am going out now to give you sometime to think about it or something like that so they can calm down and let it sink in.

At the end of the day, your parents love you, and whilst they may have wished you to be older and happily married and settled etc before this happened you aren't (i'm assuming?) and they should support you. You could even say that to them, say that this has happened, and whilst their plans for you probably didn't include this you could really do with their support at the moment because you love them and need them. I really don't see how they could get angry then! Good luck!

Answer 4

I to was scared to tell my parents when i first got pregnant, knowing that i had got pregnant by a total **** of an ex boyfriend didnt really help the situation, but you just have to be brave. Mum's can tell these things, so like mine, your mum has probably guessed already. Be brave, once out in the open, you will wonder what all the worrying was about.

Answer 5

Whether telling your parents is the first port of call one thing is certain you need to confide in someone you can trust and someone who can give you objective advice and support. Is there a teacher or other professional you can talk to? May be a health visitor or midwife at your surgery? Don't panic and definitely do not make a decision based on fear. Even if you do not get the support of your parents there is help out there. Take ownership of the situation and remember that it is your decision. Good luck.

Answer 6

Just do it darling, it will only get worse if you don't. I told my parents when I was two months pregnant at the age of 17, but I had made sure that I knew what I wanted to do before I told them. Even if you have decided that you want an abortion, you need their support to get through it. Sit them both down and explain exactly what is going on and what plans you have made. Tell them who the Father is as well, but ask them not to get involved in the decision as it is yours and his. It may be best to arrange to stay somewhere else the day that you tell them so that they can get their heads around it. If they don't like what they hear and go mental, at least you have somewhere else to go. Good Luck hunny, and remember you are not the only person to go through this, there are loads of us out there!

Answer 7

i was 21 when i got pregnant and was scared to tell my mom but she helped me so much when i told her and at the end of the day why should a mother disown a daughter when she is going to bring a life into the world. and if your mom wont be there you will always have your child and that is the most important thing in the world. look at all these people that cant have have children. in this world everything happens for a reason and you have been chosen to give a life to a child so i think you should go for it!!!!!!

Answer 8

I think you should tell your parents because I was 16 when I first got pregnant and I told them and to begin with my mother was a little upset but within a week she was wanting to go with me to my visits and help me with everything for the baby. Plus it is best you tell them because if you don't and they find out by someone else then they might be a little upset you didn't feel you were able to open up and talk to them.

Answer 9

It's going to be ok. You're not on your own. You think your parents will blow a gasket, rant and rave when you finally tell them, but in my experience, they will stand by you, reassure you, love you. Yes, they may get upset - let's face it, it's a big shock to most parents to realise their little girl is not so little anymore. Find a quiet moment where you can talk to them together. Be positive and grown-up about it. Explain it as clearly as you can (I know it's going to be emotional, but your parents will appreciate your levelheadedness). If you have made a decision about what you're going to do, tell them. They may try to change your mind, but they're only attempting to help and have some input. If you haven't yet decided what to do about your pregnancy, ask for their input, BUT the ultimate decision is yours. I got pregnant having just turned 17. I tried to keep it a secret but mothers have a sixth sense and can pick up on subtle changes. I believed they'd throw me out of the house. I couldn't have been further from the truth. I received love and support from my parents, and in return they appreciated my (eventual!) honesty and adult approach. Hang in there.

Answer 10

How old are you?
If you are a minor then you need to tell your parents. They are going to find out sooner or later. Dont make a decision to have an abortion based upon the fact you are scared to tell your parents. Thats not wise and later will be regretted.
Sit down and tell them you need to talk to them. They may be upset at first but they will calm down. If you need help you can always have a friend or adult relative help you tell them.
If you are an adult, then just tell them. You are an adult they will either accept it or not. It will be their grandchild they are more then likely to accept but even if they dont like it.