me and my girl have been together for about a year. and we recently had a big blowout and i told her i needed some time to think it over if i wanna stay with her now.. she says she loves me and wants to only be with me and doesnt want anything to do with any other guy.....but then thinks its ok and means nothing if she goes out clubbing every week and bumps and grinds with guys all night long expecting me to be ok with it. i know how she dances with the guys she dont know in the club becuz i went with her a few times a year b4 we started dating when she was with her ex. constant feeling each other up and what not. other then leave her if i dont like it...what can i do to get the point across to her that thats not right?
2006-09-05 22:22:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
weve talked and talked and talked number of times about it. at one time she said if i would quit smoking she wouldnt go to the clubs anymore. after a few months of that she said she wanted to go to the club and was backing out of the agreement we had made.
2006-09-05 22:41:57 · update #1
she doesnt look at the consequences of it all. ive been there many times alot of guys in the clubs dont care if a girl says no alot of times they do whatever it takes even if it means cornering them in the parking lot or date rape drugs......her response to that is she wont let ether happen. shes booksmart but definetly not street smart.
2006-09-05 22:56:10 · update #2
I would hate it. Would she like a taste of her own medicine?? bump and grind with a hot girl and watch her come over. This is childish, but would get a reaction. I think this sounds like she wants to be the centre of male attention but to also have the stability of a boyfriend. It must hurt like hell!! Been in this situation with a guy in my teens. I didnt see him again. Tell her how you feel. It is not safe to do this, she may get sexually assaulted or you could end up getting punched from a randy male who thinks hes up for it with her and youre in the way. Be careful
2006-09-05 22:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Abigail 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compatibility is one of the essentials of a good relationship. Her dancing is obviously something she enjoys very much. What you are suggesting is that she give up a love of hers to be with you. That's a tall order. What are you willing to sacrifice?
Do you get my drift?
It is not uncommon for you to dislike this part of her. It would make me uncomfortable also. So your discourse should be to let her know how that difference between you is a mountain you feel is too big to overcome. Even if she agrees to stop, she will not be happy and the problem still would not be solved.
From that point, together, the two of you should be able to determine whats best and pursue that route.
2006-09-06 05:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are not mature enough to admit that what they do is what is hurting the relationship she's already made up her mind that nothing is her fault or her problem...someone who is ready for a relationship would give up the things that bother you if they are valid, such as flirting and acting like a whore. She doesn't seems ready to admit this or give this "dancing" up..maybe you should move on to someone who is ready to respect you and the love you have to offer...
2006-09-06 05:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has her way, you have yours...she is putting herself in sexually compromising positions because she wants to. Sounds like a problem to me. SOunds like she has excess baggage and will for a long time.
2006-09-06 05:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to decide now if you want to be with her or not, why should she hang around waiting for you to decide, who do you think you are, you wanted time to decide, well maybe she already decided for you.
2006-09-06 05:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no she aint gonna stop partyin thats wat she liek to do.so she aint gonna stop cuz u want her too.So just move on and forget bout her.
2006-09-06 09:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by i SHiNE SO BRiGHTLi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋