Before married he told me, he won't me go to work. And if something happen to our married he won't share anything. that is mean i go out from his house without anything. which i agree.
my husband won,t me go to work. He give me some money if i want to buy something.
But what should i do now? how if oneday he divorce me, n i don't have any chance to find a job. I am 34 now. I got no house. I am so worry.
I did talk about this. He said, you did agree. if you are unhappy, go back to your mom because i wont change my mind.
2006-09-05 22:09:50 · 16 answers · asked by xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you signed anything? It may not be legallly binding if you haven't, et him to give you money and try and stash some in a bank account that you open without him knowing, it's a start. Really, though, it depends whether you want to stay with him or not, if you want to stay there's no real problem, but I know I wouldnt be happy with the situation either. Good luck
2006-09-05 22:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get some legal advice. Most places have a place where you can get advice for free.
You should also find out about job training. You're not to old to find training or work in something.
As for housing. if you don't want to go live with your mother (for the time being), look in the newspaper, there are always ads for people looking for roommates, or people who will exchange living quarters for help with elderly people.
Your husband IS NOT entitled to everything. He has to split whatever you two own and a lawyer will help you with this.
Your husband may even have to pay you alimony, which is living money, until you're able to find a job or get on your feet.
Don't listen to what your husband is telling you. He is trying to get everything and leave you with nothing and a divorce doesn't work that way. You have rights and you need help in finding out what they are and a lawyer can do that for you.
Good luck and I hope you take my advise and seek out a lawyer.
2006-09-05 22:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry such a person,or was he the best of a bad bunch that you thought you deserved.
You have legal rights too and it don`t mean he will end up with house or anything else,unless you have signed an agreement of-course.
But whether you end up with nothing or everything,you will survive with what ever this world will throw at you.
You are surviving mental cruelty,so anything else without him is easy.
He will come running,and plead for you to come back and get back into him being the big i am and undermining everything you do,so you fall right back where he wants you.
It is him that is weak and once you stand up for yourself and on your own 2 feet,he will continue to treat you this way.
2006-09-09 13:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an individual and nobody should tell you what you can and cant do. If you want to work, you go and work!
If he has the upper hand on you now and you do not speak up now - this can get worse because he will know that he can push you around and command you around as he pleases.
If you are already thinking that one day he might divorce you then your marriage is bound to fail and you are probably better off going back to your mum and start getting onto your own feet!
2006-09-09 08:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by soulsurfer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like the nicest guy or the nicest marriage.
In the worst case scenario you walk out of the marriage with nothing...and I'm sure you have plenty of rights to half his money....but if you do walk out with nothing its not the end of the world. 34 is not old, plenty of time to make a new life with a nice guy..or have a nice life on your own.
Answer the question 'What do you want out of life?' then go and get it, don't let some miserable husband put you off.
2006-09-05 22:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by All the answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a selfish jerk and you were stupid to marry him under those circumstances. Not knowing where you are living there is no answer to give you as to community property and such. If you were dumb enough to sign a pre-nup then you are SOL.
If this was me I'd be outta there and back home with mom, getting a job and finding a real man (if thats what you want). Course if it was me my motto is who needs one anyway? Women don't anymore you know. We can stand on our own two feet nicley.
2006-09-09 21:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is disgusting. you need to think upon your relationship once again. your are perfectly right in your thinking that you should do a job. have a serious conversation with your husband. tell him that everyone should get an opportunity to prove ourself by doing job. if he don't agree than you take a final decision in your life whether what is more important to you- is it your self respect or husband. talk with your parents before taking final decision.
2006-09-05 22:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by crazychori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you made a Prenuptial Agreement before you got married you will be in titled to half the possessions despite what your husband says, its out of his hands...Also if you want to go and work, explain to your husband it will make you happier to work and try and make him understand your concerns.
2006-09-05 22:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as his wife you are legally entitled to half of everything he owns, unless you signed a prenuptual agreement - he sounds like a bully. YOu need a solicitor/lawyer
2006-09-06 13:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mercy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my Guss is it's going to be a lot of trouble but you are rite and you 2 need a house you need to let him go he can't run your life tell to hit the road good luck to-you
2006-09-05 22:19:06 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋