me and my girl are have always been open to each other about everything. she once told me and i witnessed it firsthand that when shes out by the pool in her bikini her dad goes outta his way to come out and whistle and say perverted things about how good she looks and about how nice her *** and boobs look and sh*t. and when we talked about it she kinda hinted towards her dad sexually abused her as a kid and no one else knows but when i never got into that topic and moved to other things i could tell she was upset i didnt ask her about something. my question is how shoulld i go about discussing this with her?
2006-09-05 21:13:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
make her feel comfortable first.
2006-09-05 21:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think her dad is upto some mischief. If she has the means, tell her to move out and keep her dad out of her life. But give her the benefit if and when she wants to discuss her dad's weird behaviour with you. May be she wants someone to share her fears and dislikes (about her dad). Sexual abuse cannot be easily forgotten. But with good counselling and moral support much of the pain and trauma can be reduced.
2006-09-06 04:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, that's something big....Two strategies in my opnion...Go to a counselling center and seek some help for her....Take her with you and explain before hand....The other thing you can to do is sit her down, and make her listen to you. No matter what she does she has to agree to listen to what you have to say and be quiet until you're finished. She's not going to be very receptive, but you have to reinforce its ll cause you love her and you dont think its right...If you're wrong, you're wrongm but it doesnt sound like you are....And if she doesnt wann address it, you may have to accept it....
2006-09-06 04:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Don't stop! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS A HARD TOPIC. she knows as well. Does he drink alot? If he does... I think things only get worse.
2006-09-06 04:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by getsomeglenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may be something she needs to talk to a professional about and you may want to when he does this ask her if she wants to leave and go somewhere else and just tell her .. its not her fault and ask her if she wants to talk about it
whatever you do DO NOT PRESSURE HER INTO IT ..IF YOU DO SHE WILL NEVER OPEN UP YOU TO ABOUT IT
TAKE YOUR TIME
2006-09-06 04:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by sw33t_n_sp1c3y2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual abuse can make trusting hard. Let her know that she is safe with you.
2006-09-06 04:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be very careful and very loving. make sure she is absolutely confident that she can trust you, no matter what happens in your future relationship.
2006-09-07 02:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the dad likes you
2006-09-06 04:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by avocadoadam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋