I am 18 year old boy. I am doing B.tech In Computer Science. Throughout my academic life I have been a good student. Last year in Std 12th I scored 95%. But now in engineering I am losing concentration due the incident that happened with me. I have elaborated the indident below...
Few days back I had been to my girlfriend's home. I happened to see her mother in an extremely comprimising situation. I saw her mother nude doing some lewd actions in back side of garden near the pool. Embrassed I quickly looked away. As I was about leave her home, her mother stopped me and invited inside the house. I resisited as I was embrassed and was feeling ashamed. Inside the house, she talked very indecent and was touching me inappropriately. She lured me into having sex with her. I was resisting but I lost control I had sex with her. NEVER IN MY LIFE I HAD SEX WITH ANY WOMAN. I NEVER had sex with my girlfriend too. I AM FEELING GUILTY. Her thoughts keep bothering me. I feel I am not pure.plzclear me
2006-09-05 21:09:49 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Reading all the answers I feel very disappointed by the range of knowledge general pple have regarding human behaviour. They talk either nonsense or act innocent as if the society is all going very smooth.
I understand ur position, now u have two options right away.
1. If the relationship with ur girlfriend is too deep to be severing ties with her, then U'll have to tell her about what happened to u, concealing the extreme facts, keeping as much dignity as possible.
2. If possible, try to be distanced from ur girlfriend & her family.
If she asks u why, u miay give her some hint.
For ur self-understanding just question urself two things,
1. If U were a wrong person, would u have felt the sense of guilt ?
2. If being a mother, she can have such wrong ways of handlying sex, u r a young guy without much experiences, U r no God, so wasn't it a natural reaction on ur part ? It is obvious that it shouldn't have happened, but this world is made up of "IS" not "OUGHTS"
2006-09-05 22:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Muskaan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done same as any one does. If a man rapes women i understand but how can a woman aroused u so much to have sex. It is not possible dont try to prove urself innocent. U r also involved in this incident u must have enjoyed at that time but after that ur feeling bad. U were not bounded with her mother in any way u just can say no and see u cannot aroused when u r feeling bad for something. During that course u have played a big role. U r the person who made that lady satisfied.
But now if u r feeling bad, just forget all these things dont break ur relation with that girl. Try to go less to her house, if u need to go look into her mother's eyes, she wont be able to face u again.
If possible marry that girl otherwise she will face lot of problems becoz of her mother. Try to help that girl but dont tell her anything about this incident but make her alert in another way that what is happening at her home.
2006-09-05 22:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was her name Mrs. Robinson? That's pretty messed up if it's true. Unless you are totally in love with the daughter, RUN AWAY!
Don't blame yourself for anything. You got caught up in a crazy situation and you went with it. I'm sure a lot of your thoughts are about sex, being that you haven't had it before. Your hormones kicked in, nothing more, nothing less. The mother is the one with the issues. First off, how could she do that to her daughter? It's just wrong.
Honestly, if it continues to bother you so deeply, seek professional help to guide you to a solution. Don't listen to me or any other replies on a public forum.
2006-09-05 21:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by wellsey05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, does good people don't have sex? Don't bother much. You did what you wanted to do in your mind. Now do not bother as to what happened was good or bad. Go again to her (ur gf's mom, i mean), repeat the act as many times as u can and get habituated to it! It will help you in getting out of guilty feeling from ur mind!
Enjoy the sex with ur gf too and decide who is better.
Also try threesome with ur gf and her mom, so there will be no further problem.
Once you fully enjoy both of them, leave them and find someone new for sex!
Enjoy Life!!! Its Gr888888888!!!!!!!!!!
Do not feel guilty again!!!
All the best wishes for Aids!!!!!!!
2006-09-05 22:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on guy this reads too much like a story lifted from the net. However, if it is true you are one lucky man (or should I say boy). Tell your girl friend you love her mom. She will be so happy. Keep the relationship going …till you are ready to marry her, you will have the best mother-in-law in the world. What more can you ask for. Keep it up for both of them man enjoy!!!
2006-09-06 01:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cool down with the matter, dont tell your girlfriend about this as may hurt in one or the other way, also if you feel you cannot avoid her mother, speak with her about this. You are the only one who has to solve this for your sake till you feel comfortable. If you avoid meeting your girlfriends mother the things will go out of your mind.
If you are not getting better with your concentration with time, for sure go consulting a reputed pychologist don't feel shy to mention all this in detail what happened with you.
He willhelp you for sure.
2006-09-05 22:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Vijay B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to leave that country without informing anyone. Just forget that incidence and don't think about her or her mother. Get her out of your mind by doing pleasurable things that you like.
Leave your girlfriend and stop meeting her. Make new friends whom you would like to share your life with. Don't think about sex and all the things which are related to her. Leave your old friends.
Have fun to the fullest!
2006-09-05 21:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have walked away? But you didn`t. Did you enjoy it ? Yes, good but if you feel uncomfortable don`t be alone with her again. If you want to do it again best if you break up with this girl friend.Don`t feel guilty sex is fun society tends to give us hang ups about it but BE SAFE there are a lot of nasty diseases out there always use protection till you are in a settled permanent relationship..
2006-09-05 21:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wish to rob you of your thunder, the incident is not as uncommon as you think it is.
You are obviously a bright young lad, and in an understanding way feel a bit betrayed. Suggest you put mummy down as experience and get on with your education. You have a bright future ahead of you, don't go and spoil it by harping back on what you see as an ordeal. Good luck!
2006-09-05 21:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally i dont suggest keeping secrets, my question history will prove that. But dont, i repeat DONT tell your girlfriend about this. It would break her heart. Talk to her mother, explain how you feel, and tell her that it will not happen again. As to your relatioship with her daughter, perhaps you need to think back over it. Nothing you do or say will make this situation easy for you, and, quite frankly, to try to do so is shameful. You need to accept part of the blame for this as well.
2006-09-05 21:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by talz_talz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋