Shall I sing, "You keep on knockin' but you can't come in"?
He's still out having his beers, but he'll be here. First it will be, "pleaaaaaseee, baby!" then it will get more demanding like, "I said open the damn door!" and eventually it will be "it's your fault I do the things I do, you blankity blank blank blah blah blah" (not listeninggggg lalala plugging my ears lol)
Shoulda named him Ted and sent him on the bus, since he's Bus Ted!
2006-09-05 20:05:40 · 18 answers · asked by ~blessss♫☼ ♪♥ ☼ ♠♫ ♣☺☻ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call your uncles and brothers.....let them have a "chat" with him!
Seriously....he keeps coming by and doing this cause you are an enabler. You haven't clearly sent the message to him that is behavior is unacceptable and intolerable. As annoying as it can be....you probably find it somewhat amusing and it strokes your ego.
He has to know from you that what he is doing is wrong and there will be consequences if he does it again.
Just my thoughts....but I've been wrong lots. Good luck!
2006-09-05 20:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope this is someone you broke up with and not someone you put up with......
You could put up with his being at the door one more time if you plan to see him when he's sober. When he's sober calmly tell him that you aren't going to put up with the drunken visits any longer, and if he shows up drunk you will have no choice but to call the police. Tell him you don't want to have this going on, and now the neighbors are complaining about it as well. Tell him, seriously and mean it, that if he shows up drunk again you will call the police.
The other thing you could do is if he shows up tonight say calmly through the door, "Look, Fred. I can't have you out there making a big scene, and I'm not going to have you come in here either. If you don't leave now I'll have no choice but to call the police, and I don't want to do that; but I will. So please quiet down and leave now." If you have to warn him a second time do that, but then you just have to call the police.
If, by any chance, you haven't already broken up with him you need to do that no matter whether or not you like him when he's sober. Until you do your life is going to have this kind of chaos going on all the time.
Its fair enough to tell him if he doesn't go you'll call the police because maybe it would kind of be crummy to just surprise him with that without giving him the chance to leave on his own, but after a warning or two you've done your part when it comes to being fair and reasonable......you have to call.
2006-09-06 03:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him firmly to leave your premises and not return. If he should, call a cop and report him as stocking you. It could get dangerous so don't play. If he won't take no for an answer let a cop explain it to him. Pushy guys are not what your looking for. Lets say you did let him in and then changed your mind. You risk being hit or worse, raped. Tell him once firmly and tell him if he returns you will call a cop. If it gets to calling a cop, follow up with a restraining / no contact order.
2006-09-06 03:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of area do you guys live in? If it's anything like where I live, you won't have to call the cops--your nosy neighbors will get sick and tired of listening to him and do it for you!! lol Seriously, if he's not endangering your life, I'd just let him be. He'll eventually give up and leave you alone. If he doesn't---then it is time to get the authorities involved.
2006-09-06 03:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok all the nice **** fine and all, but if you want to swash it for good. on a day when he is real sober and all tell him do not call me come bye my house ect. and if you do i will be forced to do something drastic. then proceed to the sporting good store and buy (you choice) paintball gun ( hurts like hell leaves bruise without proper protective gear) or good ole aluminum baseball bat (may leave knots) and the next time he comes knocking all drunk and ****, call the cops and then proceed to let him have it i bet him nor any other dude in your town will try you after that
2006-09-06 04:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Big Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a "TRO a.k.a. Temporary Restraining Order"... its very effective and yet there won't be any authorities coming to your house in police cars etc. Also its very effective because its not only a restraining order good to keep him away from the house but also in public areas wherever you go.
2006-09-06 03:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a bigger guy.
or.....
threaten him with calling the cops. like get a friend to act as the cops and pretend to dial 911 but really speeddial ur friend and have them act as though they are cops. they could say that if they came down to the house, they wouldnt be leaving empty handed.
2006-09-06 03:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Destry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. If it gets destructive, then the police should get involved. If that doesn't work, tell him you won't talk to him unless he calms down and you'll talk to him on the phone or so mething.
2006-09-06 03:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by guru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the distance but don't make him too mad so he can enter in youre house and hwo knows what's gonna happen?be nice with him but don't give him too manny hopes that he can come back to you.if he wont listen to you ,call youre friends to help you or some one from youre familly
2006-09-06 04:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't open the door and get the phone ready to call the police....
2006-09-06 03:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋