It has to happen to everyone at some point right? But how come im so upset and stuck???? :-/
2006-09-05 19:43:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is really hard and is like grieving. The best thing you can do is get busy creating a life for yourself Get back in to eduction, where you will meet new friends and possibly a new partner. Start upi new hobbies and activites. Volunteer and get involved in society and helping something bigger than yourself. Find new friends and make use of old ones. keep yourself busy with meaninful and fun things and enjoy life.
2006-09-05 20:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all think over the past few years/months and realise that there is no "suddenly" about it - if they loved you and now do not it would have been a gradual decline brought on by factors that have driven the two of you apart. I would try and identify what these are and seek to improve myself in these areas so it doesn't happen again.
I would remain friends if I hoped for a reconnection whilst doing this and try to make her see how I was changing - but would never, ever, ever say "I've changed" as this suggests it's at least partially an act. If she had moved on - or I wanted to move on, then I would try to find someone new who appreciates the new me more.
2006-09-05 20:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by Crash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does--usually several times until you find the right relationship.
The best thing to do is wish them well. The pain comes from wanting to get back to the past when you were loved, but the past is gone. Wishing them well makes that last area of emotional resistance give up, and it allows you to move on.
Good luck--take comfort from the fact all normal human beings experience this.
2006-09-05 19:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, the age previous difficulty of falling in love with a pal. particular, fairly. My first and basically boyfriend became my terrific chum in the previous we began relationship. i did not understand i became not in love with him, yet I wasn't. as quickly as we broke up, it took time for us to envision one yet another in not a "boyfriend/lady chum" way. yet now, we are bffs returned. We realised that we've been extra suited friends than a pair. Then, some years in the past, I had an exceptionally close chum. i became my actual goofy, dorky self with him and in no way appeared at him in any incorrect way than a pal. yet then, after an prolonged time of being friends, i spotted that my emotions have been particularly changing. I fell in love with him. It became a bittersweet feeling. the stable element is that we the two went our basic procedures to college, and that i in no way spoke a word to him approximately my emotions. Then, approximately 3 years after that, whilst i presumed it does not ensue returned, I met a guy in college. We have been rather stable friends, and slowly I fell for him. I in no way informed him something nevertheless, and slowly distanced myself from him, through fact he became engaged. i think of he sensed it, and we would avert moments of being on my own mutually. I neved did tell him that I felt that way approximately him, yet i think of he knew. So yeah, it sucks to be in love with somebody you won't be able to be with. yet i think of that while you're terrific friends with a guy or female which you like plenty, you may desire to offer it a try, and if it does not artwork out, end in the previous in turns gruesome.
2016-11-24 23:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is extremely painful, but if you truly love them you will want them to be happy, even if that means without you in their life. It will hurt for sometime, however, life goes on so distract yourself with things you enjoy doing and friends who care
2006-09-05 22:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
broken hearts mend more quickly than we realise, whats hard is to suddenly find you don't know what to do with your time anymore.
you'll have to reavaluate your life and prorities because everything has changed so you got to adapt and form a new path in life xx
2006-09-08 05:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do right now is to contact your best friend and tell everything to him\her.Take his advice and start new relationship allover again.
2006-09-05 19:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by Neo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are sure you have not done anything that will caurse a sudden change in that person, you match on such is life
2006-09-05 23:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunate and painful as it may be,you just have to move on.
2006-09-05 23:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and start all over again.
2006-09-05 19:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by kytho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋