im a straight man, i like girls. but i also kind of feel attracted to guys. not girly guys or gay guys. im just attracted to them not in an intimate way. am i bi or is this normal? like sometimes i my mind i will say "hes hot"
2006-09-05 19:22:39 · 20 answers · asked by calidude5592000 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There's a kinsey scale of sexual orientation. It shows that sexuality is not definite, but is a range of being attracted to both sexes only in different amounts. So you're not strange nor are you abnormal. Perhaps its an emotional attraction to the being himself or herself, which is a good thing cos it means you are able to see beyond the physical side of people and love them for who they really are on the inside. Bravo!
2006-09-05 19:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by bluemutton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason straight men don't always think 'he's hot' when they see a good looking man, is because they have been brainwashed since early childhood to only acknowledge good looking girls, not other men. Since you say that you don't think about them in an intimate way, then thinking another man is 'hot' is a very ordinary complimentary way of looking at another man. You could equally think that a leopard or a sunset is very beautiful, but it certainly doesn't mean you would want to mate with one! Girls are normally quite happy to compliment each other's good looks, because they didn't have that brainwashing. Men always know when another man is great looking, they just normally pretend not to notice it, or are too afraid to comment in case they are thought to be gay. There's nothing gay in acknowledging beauty.
2016-03-26 23:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Calidude, it's called being HOMOSOCIAL. Now that's different than being "homosexual' or "bisexual."
Homosocial just means that in the long run, you are attracted more to your own gender for socializing, recreation, and probably friendship. I would dare say that most men are homosocial, no matter what their orientation. We like to hang around other men for validation of our masculinity and like to feel that we have men out there who will support us, even by just being there and not saying anything.
Some men are heterosocial though, and there are benefits to that too, mostly emotional ones.
2006-09-05 22:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might be curious or jealous. i don't mean to sound mean with the jealous thing but, he may look better than you do. i think everybody who is straight goes through a curious phase. whatever your orientation is, you were born with it. just be true to yourself and find happiness wherever you feel comfortable. again, your attraction may or may not be a sexual attraction. just ride it out and don't feel bad if you are bi-sexual or eventually find out that you are totally gay. be yourself. i was with a woman b4 i recognized what i really was. good luck.
2006-09-05 20:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by johnny_on_the_spot 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's interesting, because when I was quite young I experimented with male to male sex. It was because I was attracted to the sex, rather than the man, I think. I found the taboo aspect of it arousing. Maybe you just want to try it once or twice. I did, and have no regrets!
2006-09-05 20:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by tiko 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes a straight man can be attracted to another guy. Without sexual intentions.
http://g0ys.org/
2006-09-06 00:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would say you are at least by curious , im gay and can appreciate how a woman is attractive but have never actually been attracted to one
2006-09-06 06:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by alex 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are attractive, there's nothing wrong with admiring the species. Everyone finds men and women appealing.
2006-09-05 19:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Sexuality is filled with all shades of grey. And gay and bi are also "normal".
2006-09-05 19:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would guess its more jealousy than attraction. We all admire others and try to be more like them. It doesn't necessarily mean we are sexually attracted to them.
2006-09-05 19:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Hotelier 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋