I'm am a 20 year old female. Over the last year something really weird has happened...my mother has become, or came out with being a lesbian. I don't really have a problem with it, but she thinks its not obvious and people don't realize what her personal life is about. I have an 11 year old brother and I'm wondering if this is confusing the hell out of him or what. Oh, did I mention she's married? I live in Chicago and then only time she comes to visit is when her girlfriend and her meet up here, so she's really not even visiting me. Should I be angry, anyone else have similiar experiences?
2006-09-05 19:04:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Angry? No. Confused and maybe hurt? I can see that. From what I know after a cousin went through a similar situation, it may be that for a while her behavior will seem very selfish and withdrawn to you. She has been denying her true self for so long, and now that she is able to live her life, she may not be able to focus on much else. I believe she will come around. And I hope in the meantime you are able to gain some understanding of what she has gone through to come to this point, and I hope you are tolerant. The best case scenario would be if you could just love her for the mother she was to you and don't have any concerns about her current lifestyle or sex life. I find that even adult children of heterosexual parents are waaaaay better off if they don't even imagine their parents having a sex life, so that would sure cover this. Your brother may need your help dealing with this. Try to be there for him.
2006-09-05 19:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Rvn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mom Turned Lesbian
2017-01-12 21:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by humpherys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you , I didn't go any near this thing or haerd of someone I know who got through this but I want you to be reasonable and try with great sceeming mind to try to talk with your father to do things or say things to bring her back and then talk to her friend about it and how this will effect her life and your brothers life and that if she really love her she will leave her and things like that .
If the friend is working try to do anything to make her move to a far place so she will see your mother less .
buy some books to let your mother read that it's not the right thing to do in life , try to go to church or have friends from there to talk arround her about that .
If you try your best I'm sure you will get there .
2006-09-05 20:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels threatened so she depends on her girlfriend. I would tell her that you accept her but she needs to get her head out of her ***. Just because she is a confirmed lesbian doesn't mean she no longer has children, once a mother, always a mother.
2006-09-05 19:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I'd be mad that she isnt coming there for me. But as long as everyone tries to explain things properly and truthfully to your brother then he should be okay. In the mean time, support your mother if she kept it in for this long, it must of been hard for he to come out so she being your mother,gay or not, deserves alittle support and acceptance. Good luck and God bless you guys :)
2006-09-05 19:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be angry, but you guys should talk bout this, you should find out if maybe your mom was gay all this time but was scared to come out because of what people might say..anyways if indeed it bothers you that she goes to see her girlfriend instead of you then let her know that it bothers you..in these situations the best thing to do is talk bout how you feel..you should try and find out by asking your lil bro how he feels bout it..
2006-09-05 19:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to not let this interfer with your life. ANd you better meantion this to your mother that you don't want your brother affected by this nor do you. And for her to keep her personal life to herself
Now that you are an adult on your own you are setting the boundries for your own life and you don't need anyone to ruin it for you
2006-09-05 19:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont really know what to tell you. Do you think you guys could talk about this and focus on your little brother? He must be so confuse at this point.
2006-09-05 19:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she relieved the confusion your brother had.
Marriage is an alliance. Lesbianism is a sexual preference.... they sometimes conflict, perhaps not for mom.
2006-09-05 19:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by jake cigar™ is retired 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
adam was made for eve the evils of this world have blinded people from reality
2006-09-05 19:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by cuz 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋