2006-09-05 18:59:54 · 15 answers · asked by kl1779 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It usually means u either start to communicate this with your spouse or get out there and find your own hobbies, activities or friends. The thing is, u can be with your spouse 24/7 and still feel lonely because u are making your spouse the only source of your happiness. And when he can't be there for u, u start feeling lonely.
Get out there and do something for yourself. Find your individuality again and don't make your spouse the sole person responsible for your happiness because not only is that unhealthy for a marriage, it's a great burden for your partner.
2006-09-05 19:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you feel lonely? Is your spouse out doing things with other people? Is your spouse just watching TV and not talking to you?
Some people demand more attention than others. I am one that likes 100% attention from my husband. If I don't get it I feel left out. I have realized that it's mostly "my problem" though. I spend a lot of time playing games on the computer when he is occupied in something I'm not interested in, although I sacrifice some stuff too just so we can spend some time together. I'm not a big NASCAR fan at all but I've watched every one of the races that he has. That helps me a little. I think it means a lot to him because he knows I'm not a big fan but I'm watching it with "him"...do you understand what I'm saying?
Loneliness is just a feeling. You can choose to feel lonely or you can do something about it. It's just another one of those choices in life.
2006-09-06 02:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I come here (and the Internet in general) and look for answers. I just started doing that. But I think it means that you should open up a dialogue with your spouse about how you feel and how you can work together to get each others' needs met. I tend to busy myself with projects and also focus on the kids. I started a new approach this week: I'm going out of my way to be loving and generous. Not in a fake way. I'm genuine--I'm just trying to let him know I appreciate him. Finally, I dropped the kids off at my sister's house today for just an hour and went out and got some coffee and flirted a bit with the barista! Oh, it wasn't intentional --just happened and gave me a little boost.
2006-09-06 03:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in a marriage, you start to lose yourself. Who YOU are, you mesh into everything around you. We start to slip into that routine.
You need to get out and find yourself. Do things that make YOU feel good, once you have found yourself again things will get a little better day by day, and people will notice the "new" you. Talk to your spouse and be open...
Marriage takes two, it should never be lonely.
2006-09-06 02:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need something from your husband that you are not getting, you have to ask for what you want. Communication is the key to fixing any problem in any relationship. You are part of the problem, so own your part in the problem and ask him to do the same. See a counselor if necessary, but if you let this go on too long it will only get worse. Something is causing the disconnection, find out what that something is. Finding each other again may take time, but whateve it is that you fell in love with is somewhere under the surface...
2006-09-06 02:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt lonely in my marriage for the last 10 years of it. My wife had turned to our children and her work friends and away from me. I hadn't done anything, but try to support her and love her. When I wasn't trying to connect with her, I turned to our kids, my work and to my hobbies. These things got me through, until the day she left me. I had something to turn to during that horrible time of the breakup.
2006-09-06 02:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness is your mind's way of telling you to take action. It's saying, "where you are now isn't healthy."
It's an opportunity to improve your marriage. Loneliness usually has a message for you. Getting the message will not only end the loneliness, but it will also move your life in general forward.
In other words, loneliness is not "wrong," it's one of life's little classrooms.
2006-09-06 02:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt very lonely for about the past 5 years.....are you a man or woman?
2006-09-06 02:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by nikthorbella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evaluate your marriage and sort out what is missing in your relationship that is causing such loneliness and talk with your spouse and let him/her know you feel and how you can correct it, if possible. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-06 02:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss divorce with your spouse.
2006-09-06 07:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋