wat do you do when your watching your life crumble before you???

Question

every single one of your friends are becoming distant and questionable while the only person you love is so far away.

Answer 1

When I feel like my life is falling down around me, I get on my knees and seek God's face. I have learned we can try to solve all of life's problems on our own, but most of the time we only find ourselves in deeper. I have learned to trust God and I give it all to him and he offers peace beyond understanding. Let God handle it all and He will take care of you. God bless you and I pray all goes well in your life.

Answer 2

Fix it. And DON'T GIVE IN TO SELF-PITY. Self-pity is one of the worst emotions, because it cajoles you into thinking you are powerless when most of the time, you are not. People see themselves in a crunch, faced with difficult decisions or a difficult course of action, and they crumble because they don't think they can handle it, or because self-pity blinds them to the solution.

Why are your friends becoming distant? Is there something you might be doing that's driving them away? Find a friend you think will be honest with you, and have a frank discussion. Ask him/her if they have any ideas why your friends seem to be growing more distant. Do not be judgemental or quick to dismiss what they may have to tell you. And you should be willing to either change your ways, or accept the situation and move on. (There's no law against making new friends!)

If the person you love is far away, try to do more to stay in touch. Have regular phone calls a couple times a week, often enough to sustain the bonds but not so often that you become a nuisance. Keep in touch via email or IM. Some IM programs allow voice and/or video communication, if you both have the equipment. If this person is really someone you love, you could even write actual, physical snail-mail letters. People love a handwritten letter; they're so much more personal than an email or casual phone call.

Sometimes though, people just drift apart. Be prepared to accept that, if it becomes clear that that is going to be the case. But then also be prepared to accept that there is someone else out there for you, whom you can give your love to and who will love you.

Life is unpredictable, and part of that unpredictability is that sometimes things just don't go our way. We just have to adjust and deal with it. It also helps to keep in mind that there is plenty in life that _does_ go our way. We just have to be patient.

Answer 3

Pick up the peaces and salvage what you can . Take a good look at your friends . Are they really your friends ? Distant ? I don't think there questionable either . I think you are going through a change in your life and it is rocking your world . You might be growing and your friends are stagnating and that is why they seem distant. Open your eyes and look and see what is it in your life that has changed ? You might be surprised .

Answer 4

This is a great question for me ! Recently My life has taken turns unexplainable by fate or Karma! I am a truly good person, and I pride myself on morals and honesty, but since last september My life has beckoned a dreary fate....... I had my tonsils removed, horrible experience at 29, I took a vacation and was in a car wreck in my brand new car, I came home and was attacked by a dog, I brokeup with my fiancee, My son lacerated his liver while riding his bike forcing me to live in the hospital with him for 13 more days off work, I lost my 2 oldest kids to my ex hubby who is a prick and sole custody with only visitation to me, Then my transmission went out in the brand new car that had already been crashed, ad with no rental car, they kept it in the shop until I lost my job and had to return the car...... what do you do? Keep on keepin on! Lift your head and walk to a place that doen't suck so bad look up and yell **** you you are not going to beat my spirit down, then realise god doesn't give you anything you cannot handle just ask him not to trust you so much! GOOD luck and god bless!

Answer 5

I'm not going to say I know what you're going through, but I can say I'm going through something that seems pretty similar to what you're describing. One thing to remember is that, as selfish as it may seem, YOU are the most important person in your life. I'm not necessarily an atheist but I also don't believe in god, or at least one true god, or heaven and hell. I think that we die alone (Sartre is my favourite philosopher that talks about this sort of stuff, but obviously there are a lot more). If we die alone, the only person we have to account to is ourself. In saying that I'm not trying to give people licence to do whatever they please, just what ever they can live with and not regret when their time comes to die. Obviously that's a pretty huge generalization, but as it's not the answer to your question I'm not going to go on with that thread.

The main thing I'm trying to say is that you are very important, nomatter how important anyone else is to you, even if you were willing to die for them. Your friends are becoming distant. That's sad... heartbreaking probably. But there will be more friends. The person you love is far away. That's terrible, I'm so sorry you have to deal with that, but things will get better. You'll either choose to remain in this situation (long distance relationship?) or you'll choose to place yourself in another (possibly less painful) one. I think it is important to not let yourself become a victim. If you don't enjoy your situation, you need to do anything you can to facilitate your CHOICE not to be in it. Or, conversely, if you choose to remain in this situation, try to find a way to make it better (maybe try to talk to your friends and ask them why they'e becoming distant. Or if they've changed a lot and you're the person who is pulling away, then try to find friends that suit you as you are). Or another option is learn to be happy on your own. Maybe take up meditation, or go for long walks or go on outings that you would normally go on with friends or loved ones, on your own. Maybe treat yourself to a walk on the beach or a few hours in a park reading, writing, or doing something else creative that helps you find value within yourself.

I'm not saying you don't need anyone. Humans are, for the most part, pack animals I reckon. And you're not weak or a bad person for wanting to have friends or being sad that they're pulling away. I think the best thing to do is find out what you want (if you are so upset about being away from your loved one, why not try to make a plan to move closer to them or have them move closer to you... or if that's impossible... try some other ways to change the situation so it's not as painful).

Boy I'm rambling here. I'm sorry. What I'm saying, I suppose, in a nutshell, is that your life is not necessarily crumbling. YOU are not crumbling. Your life needs a change, you need a change. Life is sort of like your favourite t-shirt that you've grown out of... it's a t-shirt you keep growing out of I suppose. If you didn't grow, you probably wouldn't have to face these questions. But if you didnt' grow... I think that would be more negative than anything you're facing. I hope that you can find a choice that suits you and helps you move beyond this and change your life for the better. Haha I also hope you find any sort of coherent meaning in this answer :) Good luck and best wishes :)

Answer 6

That's a sign that you should start focusing on your own goals. Then start setting some. Get busy and start achieving. First set small ones then let it become a habit. You'll find new and exciting people with similar interests coming into your life.

Answer 7

Drugs will do that. Study hard and work hard and you won't have time for self pity. Find someone you can can be happy with and cultivate a new friendship, maybe even more than one.

Answer 8

Start over... life is so long you can afford to do it a few times. Or correct the wrong that created this despersion.

Answer 9

Realize that this will pass and that although it is unpleasant now it will be replaced by something better which I will be really able to appreciate given this experience.

Answer 10

When I feel that way I try not to think abut my problems by doing something and/or helping someone, no matter how small it is. It always makes me feel better.