i told my boy friend that i was pregnant and i'm not. iwanted to see how he'd react. and hes stepped up and he's tried to name it and buy clothes .what should i do?
2006-09-05 18:02:56 · 28 answers · asked by Kendra 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well firstly what you did is horrible......
Step up and tell him the truth, the down side for you is that he will be unforgiving and probably dump you
you should not play games with other peoples emotions just to satisfy your own curiousity
hope you have learnt something out of this
2006-09-05 18:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess by now you figured out what you did was wrong. The best way to to make things right would be to tell him the truth now. However, before you do that you might want to ask yourself some questions first. For instance, why did you really do it? (could it be you are feeling insecure in your relationship?). If so, ask yourself why. Is it because of something he is doing or of something that has happened to you in the past? Answer HONESTLY, all these (and more) questions to yourself first. Then, when you talk with him tell him all the reasons that you came up with. He might leave you, but if he is any kind of a good person AT ALL he will fall for you more because you did some work behind it. I've been married for 10 years. My husband and I have went though HELL, the reason we are still married is because we have BOTH done whatever it takes to look at ourselved and we BOTH do whatever it takes (counseling etc) to make our marraige work. Because of all the work we've done we are both still IN LOVE with each other.
2006-09-06 01:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by lorimcarthur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you want to see how your boyfriend would react to you being pregnant? Are you looking to get married to this guy and possibly start a family?
Tell him that it was a false alarm and that you're not pregnant. Then see what his reaction is. If he's in the same mindset as you seem to be, he may decide that he would like to marry you & have kids. But be prepared that he may also be relieved and possibly want to distance himself from you and the scare of possible fatherhood.
At least you'll know if you and he are on the same page as far as parenthood and your relationship is concerned--whatever that page may be for both of you.
2006-09-06 02:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Sue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW thats never a good thing to do. You must handle this now very carefully! if he even suspects you lied he will not act exited if you really do become preggers and if you lie again, ie....I lost it etc, you risk himfinding out about 2 lies, I suggest you tell him it was a false alarm that you thought you were but, that the test came back positive most likely because of un normal hormone levels, and that you wantd to tell him sooner but were afraid he would be upset. Then don't ever do that again, It is playing with his emotions and even though you had good intentions they were misplaced you need to ask him questions about how he would feel about you getting pregnant not create a false pregnancy to see what he would do! Good luck!
2006-09-06 01:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Flagstaff mama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look i realize that this was looking for womanly "advice" but i have to butt in...
What you did was worse than terrible. In today's day and age, when women are bitching and whinning that men don't take resposability for themselves and their children (or potential children) you have someone who was more than willing to do the right thing. And you ruined that. How can he ever trust you again. This is the "Big One". Pregnancy is a monumental shift in people's lives. And you were fortunate enough to find someone who was willing and seemingly eager to step up to that challange. If you have any shred of decency left then you should come clean, don't add another lie and tell him that the test was wrong. If you are half the woman he obviously thinks you are you owe him that much. And he has every right to walk away from you. He was a winner, and if you did this just to screw with him, you don't deserve someone half as decent as him.
2006-09-06 01:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all that's cruel to do to him, never play with someone's emotions it will ruin things in the future.
Now that my preaching is done...heh...
You need to make sure you tell him the truth, because in 3 months he will expect to be seeing some sort of results from this lie...and if there is nothing to see then he will definitely be bothered by it. The tree that allegedly bares fruit is the tree that gets the attention...no fruit...no attention.
Tell him the truth, right now.....see him as soon as you can and tell him, before he goes out and buys a baby seat and thousands of dollars of things to try and prepare. He will be upset, do not even try and lie to yourself...but it is better to tell him now instead of letting him figure it out on his own, that's a worse let down...and borders on betrayal.
2006-09-06 01:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved him or knew him, you should have known how he would react!!! You should have never played with his emotions like that! What if he told you that he cheated on you or that he had AIDS???? It's women that pull stunts like that that make good women like myself look bad!! A man will take care of his responsibilities!! If you thought he would run out of you, you should never put yourself in that type of situation!! You really need to come clean with him or get pregnant for real!! Just know that he may have trouble trusting u or believing anything that you tell him from now on!!
2006-09-06 03:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by angellove 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you could of course tell him the truth.......thats always the best policy, but if you feel that will ruin your relationship completely you could say you took another test and it came up negative....false alarm. Another option but my least favorite you could say you had a miscarriage....but that may hurt him in a way too so you just have to weigh out your options.
2006-09-06 01:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by wentdownkickin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You told him about a new life inside you, made from your love. When you tell the truth, as you must, he will take the news as the death of a loved one and mourn its loss with real emotion. If you had any integrity at all, you would confess the entire truth, every single lie upon lie upon lie, and beg his forgiveness. After that, I suggest you spend much, much more time begging God's forgiveness.
2006-09-06 01:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by miguelitabonita 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you do something like that? You should have just asked him what would he do if you were to ever be pregnant? Thats really mean messing with him like that? You need to tell him the truth...You're not being fair to him.
2006-09-06 01:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋