we have been going out for a week now and he wanted me to have sex with him, i did not feel right so i said no and now he is mad at me and i don't know what to do. As guys can u help me.......what should i do. i don't regret saying no to him but i kind of feel bad because i really like him..any suggestions...........please
2006-09-05 17:28:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Stick with your decision. If he is mad on account of it, it's he who has issues not you. He should respect you for saying no, and if he can't accept it he is being selfish. If he truly cares about you and loves you he won't pressure you to have sex with him. If he is so upset with you for saying no that it is causing difficulty between you, then he's not worth it and only was interested in the sex in the first place. After you give it to him, he will be gone, looking for the next conquest, and chances are, talk bad about you to other guys. Keep your self respect, and cheers to you for saying no!
2006-09-05 17:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by brendalyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A week? Think about it. A week. 7 days. 1/4 of a month. 1/52 of a year. Approx, 1/ 3800-th of your lifetime. I'm in my 30s and I still am learing about MYSELF. How can you two possibly know enough about each other after a week to have sex? Have you decided what you want as a career? How long did that take you? Would you be willing to make THAT decision in a week? If not, why would you be willing to make a decision within a week that could potentially effect the rest of your life and how healthy you will be during that lifetime? Assuming you're 16 (hypothetically, of course) and that you live to at least 73, you still have at least 2964 weeks to live. (Let's face it, to you, he may seem nice. He may seem clean. He may even believe he is clean. But he could have a VD that even he doesn't know he has. Or, you could get pregnant.) Dont worry yourself about it. Feel empowered. Imagine yourself the tough fierce warrior-ess. YOU wont be pushed into anything. YOU will decide when it is right --and only then if you also KNOW it is safe.
As for your "boyfriend", HE"S not ready for sex. He's being rash. If he's mad, shrug it off. Too bad for him (think of it as tough love). If he doesn't get over it. Let him go. Perhaps, if he really is a good guy, and it is meant to be, when he matures and comes to his senses, you two will get back together in 3, 5, 10 years and cross that threshold after you've been together long enough to truely have gotten to know each other and to have forged strong bonds and lifelong emotional ties.
2006-09-05 17:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by tigerzntalons 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body is your temple.You will know when it is the right time when you are ready for sex.If he is mad at you about the issue of sex,then he probably is not ready for a serious relationship.Some guys are cruel and will push a girl into sex and then dump her like a rock.I think you are right in holding back until you are ready and no sooner.Stand your ground,if sex is all he is after,then it is his lost.
2006-09-05 18:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man must respect a woman. If he does not respect you now, do you think he will ever respect you when you are married?
I love sex too, and wish to have it whenever I want. But I cannot get mad! Sex is about union between 2 person, not just satifying myself, and my wife just pleasing me all the way.
Moreover, it he get along with u just for sex. . . forget it. He is using u, for he has no money for prosititute. Don't be used.
In my opinion, he loves himself, his own feeling, his own needs more than he loves you.
To be or not to be with him, the choice is yours. Choose it with eyes wide open.
2006-09-05 17:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Melvin C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you dont give in when your ready. If sex is the only thing he wants from you then get over him. Hes a dirtbag. If he is honestly mad at you dump him. If he is just frustrated and gets over it with in an hour or so talk to him and dont hint him on until your ready.
2006-09-06 09:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's no boyfriend if he wants to have sex & does not respect your decision. He just wants sex - don't be fooled! He is not worth your time. You've only known him for a week! What do you know about his sexual history? I know a lot of people who won't have sex with anybody until they get an STD & an HIV test!!! Smart people!
2006-09-05 17:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, if he doesn't respect you enough to understand you dont want to have sex then it sounds like he isn't worth liking. There are guys out there that will treat you like a lady (not a hoe) and you should save yourself for the "gentleman" kind.
2006-09-05 17:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by rose430 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex? After one week? wow... .he's got some balls to even bring it up that soon. I didn't have sex with my boyfriend till after ONE YEAR. Look, you have only been going out with him for a week. I say break it off. Guys like that aren't worth your time. You tell him that your wasting YOUR time on a jerk and he's wasting his time on you when he could be getting it on with a loose chick.
2006-09-05 17:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jordan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After all the time, effort, and cash he spent on you over the last week, the least you could do is give it up for him. It's not like you're a virgin or are not horny for him? Who's using who? You got something for nothing and he got the nothing. Next time you shouldn't tease people, if you don't want to have sex, then just stay "friends."
2006-09-05 17:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give me a break .. based on your statement, neither you nor he are ready or mature enough to have sex yet.
Wait until you are in love and have a few more years under your belt.
2006-09-05 17:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋