2006-09-05 17:26:46 · 44 answers · asked by blueeyes40can 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how bout divorce him and take him for 1/2 of what he's worth
2006-09-05 17:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by geom1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am speaking from experience here, You have to decide what is best for you, Is this is an isolated event? Is this an ongoing affair? Has he done it before? Do you still love him even-though he has just broken your heart? Can the both of your repair your marriage and trust? Is God currently in your life? Getting even by sleeping with somebody else only lowers you to his level. The experience I had was after 6 years of marriage, I went on a business trip, got drunk and slept with another married women. After I got home I was so filled with guilt I told my wife. She was really mad and told me later that if she had found out any other way she would have left. She gave me one more chance, it took a long time to earn her trust back, I have not even thought about doing this again because I have been given the greatest gift a man could get, a second chance from a loving and caring wife. I am not saying you should give him a second chance but you should not throw away what you have either. I am glad my wife did not, we now have 3 wonderful girls and have been married for 15 years.
2006-09-05 18:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by JD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really a lot that you can do. The first thing that you have to realize is that no matter what anyone says it is not your fault. They both have issues with commitment. His is commitment with love and hers is loyalty to friendship. It takes a trulu cold and selfish person to sleep with there bestfriends husband and they obviously don't have a heart or soul. They should have been raised better by there parents. You need to decide if your marriage is worth saving. If you think that he might change and you can save your marriage then try, but make sure that she is out of your life because she will always be a sl*t. If you choose to end your marriage then again make sure that you end your friend ship because she will always screw over the people close to her to get what she wants. This time it was your husband whats next?
2006-09-06 04:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will pretend that I have no idea that they're having an affair. I'll put up a camera at our house. Then I would invite my bestfriend at our house. Then I'll pretend that I'm busy doing something thus leaving them alone in the place where I set-up the camera. But they don't know that I'm doing surveillance on them. Then once I have the tape, I'll invite my bestfriend again at our house. And of course, my husband should be around. Then we'll have a get-to-together after dinner and lounge at the living room and watch the tape. I wanna see their reactions at their faces! And then, MAKE THEM PAY! MUWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
2006-09-05 17:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a tough one .. and one that you need to search your heart for. Needless to say I would strongly suggest for yourself (because this is such a big betrayal on your part) go to counseling. Then you need to decide if you want to leave the relationship, get a divorce. Ultimately you are losing two very important people in your life - your best friend for sure is someone to lose contact with. Your in my thoughts
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-05 17:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to say than done especially if you have kids w/ the jerk already. But don't get mad yet....get even....before you file divorce make sure you have evidence that he is cheating...gather all his assets,income and than file divorce.. The only way you can get even is take everything from him. Interms of your bestfriend. what goes around comes around....she's not a friend if she have an affair with your husband./
2006-09-05 18:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's quite a question. Keep anything sharp out of reach for one. You get a great lawyer. You stay in the house. You don't let him know about the divorce until you have documented all of his income, assets, pensions,401k, etc, etc, etc. Then you take him to the cleaners. Next you get a new best friend.
2006-09-05 17:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U cant live wuth such a man right ?
so end this agony by confronting him and ur Best friend, and do file 4 a divorce.
u dont deserve such a man lady, u discovered this so thank ur stars n move on .....
May God Bless U !!
2006-09-05 17:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that's totally up to you. Can you forgive him? I would kick the woman's **** out of my life! Are there children involved?
Can you save your marriage by councelling? Its totally up to you!
Once you calmed down, make a list of pro's and con's of your marriage to see for yourself is it worth saving? Then find out if he did it with other women! Girl there's so much to think about.
Try to find out why he did it? Are you not doing something right?
Just because he had an affair is it worth throwing everthing away? There's a lot to consider.
I wish I could help you.
2006-09-05 17:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what you can do but I know that'll be the end of both relationships for me. A friend shouldn't even get involved with a friend's ex, they both went way over the line. Good luck, God bless and get a really good lawyer.
2006-09-05 17:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by Ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was NOT ur friend in the first place so get that out of ur head right now..... friends do NOT cross that line.... just let that part go...... the part that you need to concern urself with is him..... is he worth working it out with ? if so, do not push urself to be ok.... take ur time and greive for the loss of trust..... greive what has been lost...... then work urself back up to being ok... allow urself to be angry and sad and all the other emotions..... YOU did nothing wrong........ he did..... the other woman could NOT make him do what he did not want to...... he has a brain and knows right from wrong........ so make the choice...... work on urself first, and let urself heal..... if you want to work it out with him, councling is a good idea..... God bless
2006-09-05 17:33:18 · answer #11 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋