as a confident person in a high profile job, i have found myself getting increasingly jealous of attention shown to my new partner, whilst we are out, supposedly enjoying ourselves. This often causes me to find reason to argue with her, when this is the last thing i want to do as she is a great girl. i havent really been like this before, so why now?
2006-09-05 17:25:58 · 20 answers · asked by andyh7777 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im an expert on this emotion so pay attention....the only result of this emotion is more misery and increasing jealous feelings.
once you allow these feelings into your relationship they will only get worse and increasingly irrational.
now this is the important part....as soon as you sense that feeling building up in your gut push it right away immediately, i mean actually say these words 'no this is a lovely girl and i am being a complete moran and making myself look ridiculous' (dont say it out loud or you'll look like a prat)
2006-09-07 08:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi I would say that jealousy is a natural emotion but the very first thing you could do is to ask yourself. Are you being over jealous or is your new partner too friendly with other guys or are you just uncomfortable with the fact that she can draw more attention to herself than you do? If you take the time to reflect on yourself, you can find out the answer to you own question. If you do think that she is being too friendly, communication would be a good thing. Some guys don't like to show that they are jealous because they feel that it is a sign of weakness. Actually, having the courage to admit that you can get jealous can prove that you do care a lot about your new partner. On the other hand, if you are being over jealous, I would suggest learning to control yourself. For example, you could participate more in her conversations with other people and show her how gracious you are. Finally, if it is a problem of being in the spotlight, I would say that if you do care about her, letting her have the spotlight sometimes could show her how confident you are. Since you are confident, you should not be bothered that she has the attention all the time. I hope what I typed would help you a little.
2006-09-05 17:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by Duck Curry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a sign of fear--perhaps in this case it is the fear of being overshadowed by your new partner. Sometimes the fear is completely unfounded--the kind that comes from major insecurity and self-doubt. Sometimes the fear is rooted in some truth. If your new partner is doing well and is getting a lot of attention, there may some substance to your fear--at least on the surface of things. In that sense your jealousy may be a "natural emotion" and not necessarily the sign of low self-esteem.
What can you do about those feelings? Be honest with yourself about them and be as clear about them as possible. What are the qualities this woman has that bring her attention? In what ways (if any) is she a threat to your job (or at least your getting attention)? What are the ways you excel at your job? What are some areas where you can focus on improving? Focus not on trying to be better than her, but on being the best you can be at your job.
2006-09-05 17:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that jealousy is a sign that all is not right in a relationship. It comes from an insecurity on your part - perhaps you're not sure that she feels the same as you do or that you're undeserving of her and she will soon realise and leave you for someone else. I found that I was very jealous at first in my relationship but as time goes on you become more stable, confident and secure within it and that jealousy leaves you. Just chill out and remember that she is with YOU!
2006-09-05 17:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by jbabee22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u are just jealous because you are used to gettin all the attention and then she came along and now no one pays attention to you so just try not to get jealous and be happy that shes gettin attention and i also thin that jealousy is a sign or low self esteem so thats no good we want the esteem level to stay high
2006-09-05 17:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you're worried about your own job and that she is taking away all the limelight from you. I guess it's a natural emotion if you have been enjoying the attention for so long. Let go of that feeling coz it's definitely not healthy at all.
2006-09-05 17:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is made up of these 3 basic emotions:sadness,anger,& insecurity....i am also reading a book on self-esteem and it says that even people w/ "high profile" jobs suffer from it,being a cognitive distortion,it doesn't matter where you are in life:moreover,it has to do w/ where you came from.
2006-09-05 17:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think jealousy is natural, to a certain extent. I think that if someone feels more than just the initial jealousy pang, there are signs of a problem. It sounds like maybe you just need to feel more appreciated and recognized for your accomplishments. Am I right? Tell her how you feel. Apologize for arguing with her. Search your own feelings and see if you think you can share in her recognition for whatever it is she is getting praise for.
2006-09-05 17:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in love with this girl, and are getting a little jealous, its a awful emotion, one that we all have. So just try hard to go with the flow, and not cause any arguments, and maybe you can talk it out with her. good luck.
2006-09-09 12:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably both brought on situational issues with work and internal issues with yourself. Go to therapy to detrmine why work is excavating this side of you.
2006-09-05 17:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by aquarian77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋