ok im in love with my second cousin...we get alog great and he told me he likes me and i told him i like him too...i did some research and in the state of ohio dating or marrying your second cousin is allowed...just not any closer to you than that...we want to be together but we're waiting until we get out of school so we can be together freely...my question is ..how are we supposed to tell the rest f the family?
2006-09-05 17:20:53 · 13 answers · asked by ithappened2me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
second cousin is not too close genetically....just bide your time and tell people when you feel ready.
2006-09-05 17:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I have good news for you. In my family, second cousins got married and have been married for over sixteen years. And had children. The family was pretty upset for a while, but everyone got over it. Some didn't come to the wedding, but in a couple years nobody talked about it anymore. Just wait until you are at least 18, and make sure you weigh the possibility that your family may disown you-at least for a little while. You could also try the dignified approach and tell your parents how you feel about your cousin and honestly ask their opinion. If you have pretty decent parents of course. Parents understand more than you think. I'm a parent, and although I may be disappointed if my son told me that he loves his second cousin, I would probably urge him to wait until he's older to make the decision to be together. Just because it might cause a whole lot of problems for the entire family right now and in a couple years you may not even love him anymore. Trust me, as much as you think you love him now, it may fade. But it also may be forever, in which case talking to your parents would be a good option, because maybe they can help soften the blow to the rest of the family. Good luck. Just don't get pregnant before you come clean to the whole family. That will TOTALLY mess things up. You have to show your family that you've thought this through, that you're mature and that you aren't just acting on your horniness.
2006-09-05 17:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by missy s 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
With a second cousin there is a lot of family to think about. Some won't mind aslong as you are happy and others will not like the idea at all.
I am guessing it's all down to the family and how they think. If I was one of your family then it would be strange but it's your choice. It might be worth trying to be sneaky and find out what the important ones think. It is possible, esp if you mention something about a program on TV and say you don't know what you think about it. Its a lie but you'd be surprised how well it works without any backlash on why you asked. Trust me on that on ;)
2006-09-05 17:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by earthangel_ghost 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You pick the family member that you trust the most; and entrust them to tell the rest of the family your news. I can't believe it is legal in Ohio for 2nd cousins to marry! I live in Oklahoma; I think you have to be fourth cousins here. That woman that said she had normal kids with her first cousin, is lying! She has to be!! Too many of the same genes causes retardation! It is a scientific fact! Please think of your unborn children before you make any hasty decisions!!
2006-09-06 03:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably not ideal, because your kids and everyone will ask "so how did you two meet" and you will have to reply "oh we're family" so that's gotta be awkward... i wouldn't think that far back would influence the DNA of your prospective children. but part of the excitement of being in a relationship is trying to win the approval of the partners family, a bit difficult when you already are? the heart and the head never work together so maybe the best person to talk to about it would be your mum or best friend?
2016-03-26 23:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that yall are doing the right thing in being together no matter how much yall like eachother because to be honest even if he is a second cousin he still is blood and thats nasty ... Your family wont take it very well so dont do it because its going to hurt alot of family member's.
2006-09-05 17:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell the truth of the matter openly. Many relationships have been looked down upon for various reasons, but this has not detered those truly in love. Your family shall accept this, or they shant.
Love is not only colourblind, but has also a lousy sense of direction.
Best of luck to you both.
~Because sometimes it is rocket science.~
2006-09-05 17:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are too emotional phase because you are at school. Before getting engage think about future and the society, whether your life is easier or not. Think about your future life, how do the society see you. If it was my culture, we will have jailed.
2006-09-05 17:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by digendra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that if u guys really wanna be together ur family should understand and let you so if i were u i would flat out tell my family and just hope that they love me enough to let me make my own choices
2006-09-05 17:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i married my first cousin!!! and have two {normal} kids shock horror we were very happy for 16 years some of the family were not amused but to hell with them we are now best mates and ma bay one day i might go back to him just not at the moment, go for it you only live once as long as he is good to you and makes you laugh don't give a s.h.i.t what anybody says,
good luck..
2006-09-05 18:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by hazilbabe 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋