what should i do now? Ive been married before and scared of marriage again, especially since my x cheated on me while i was at work! I enjoy the company of other woman and they enjoy me just as much it seems. I want to date alot of them, so what should i do? I am looking for a womans perspective? I am getting older, but still have a great body, atleast thats why i am told! I have tryed to explain to my gf, that i dont want to get married, but i havent told her the entire reason why, only that i am scared to now. what should i do now?
2006-09-05 17:20:00 · 13 answers · asked by bubba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If u haven't already now is the best time to tell your gf your intentions. If she accepts this, great. If not then u have to decide if u still want to stay with her. Just stay true to yourself.
2006-09-05 17:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with the woman that you're with and tell her how you feel, it's not fair to her, for you to feel this way and still be with her. I can't blame you for being scared to marry again, but don't assume every woman, will turn out to be like your wife, as far as cheating. Have you been divorced long, if not, that could be why you want to date other woman, nothing's wrong with that, but try not to mislead anybody into thinking you want a relationship, when you really don't, consider their feeling's too. I think it's great that you're getting older and still in great shape, some men can't say that. I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-09-06 00:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal approach is to never be misleading as to my true intentions. I'm not interested in a long-term committment with just anybody, but I still want to go out and date and have fun. You have to be honest about not wanting to commit to a monogamos relationship, even if it means scaring off some potential dates - you'll be surprised to find that some women are not interested in the whole "committment" thing either, and this arrangement works for them. But whatever you do - don't let the person feel that you're fully "committed" to them, it will lead to hearbreak when they find out otherwise.
2006-09-06 00:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by codex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy.Sometimes its not the answer people are looking to hear but by being honest not only are you conveying your true feeling but you are not stringing someone along.
Be honest and tell her that youare not ready for a commmittment at this point in your life andthat you'd like to date others and give her the opportunity to also..And by doing so you will both know if you belong together.
Lots of luck to ya!
2006-09-08 01:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u date some1 else while having a gf then u r cheatin her !!
u tell her the reason y u dont wanna marry.
n well i hope u marry soon n get a wonderful wife,just bcoz ur x cheated u , u need not cheat ur gf ,if u do so whats the difference between u and ur ex?
anyways best of luck !!
2006-09-06 00:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. Tell her you don't want to settle down again until you are ready. Also make sure you tell her you want to date around for a while, b4 getting serious again. She will either accept it or not.. Atleast you were being honest. Good luck!
2006-09-06 00:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the woman you are seeing know that you don't want to be exclusive. Then she understands that you can date other women and she can date other men. If she doesn't like that arrangement she'll have to move on. You are smart to take your time.
2006-09-06 00:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of her.. You haven't made a decision yet.. and you aren't playing fair. Let go then play all you want.. Only then will you consider what you are giving up.. but as long as you continue to have the attention of two women.. dah..you wont make a decision.
2006-09-06 00:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she deserves the truth..... why wait till you are overwhlemed and do cheat....... why put urself in that position...... you are NOT married or enganged to her right ? so you do have options..... if you want to date other women then that is the answer you seek...... you are NOT committed to the relationship...... so do what is right and be honest with her..... she will hurt but she will hurt more if you do not end it and let her think she has a chance with you......... God bless
2006-09-06 00:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST THING YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND AND TELL HER HOW YOU REALLY FEEL
AND THEN GO FROM THERE. IF YOU WANT TO DATE
OTHER WOMEN SHE DESERVE TO KNOW THAT THEN'
EVERYTHING WILL BE OUT IN THE OPEN. THAT THE BEST
THING TO DO HONSETLY IS THE BEST POLICY ALL THE
AWAY AROUND.
2006-09-06 00:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋