If you question gay lifestyles, why do the pro-gay circles label you a homophobe or question your sexuality?

Answer 1

It's a harsh double-standard, just like with blacks there exists a victim mentality. If you disagree with their views, they're suddenly "being oppressed" or prejudiced against.

Answer 2

Well -- let's start by thanking you for using the word lifestyles rather than lifestyle. There is no gay lifestyle -- but different gay persons do indeed engage in many different lifestyles -- none of which exclusively relate to being gay. Thank you for tacitly recognizing this.

Often questions are, to my surprise, a method of making concealed attacks -- and since attacking gays is the nature of homophobia, there is a clear link that would lead to claims of homophobia.

Once those assumptions (that you are homophobic) are made -- the Georgia study alone gives a strong indication indeed that you may yourself be homosexual. You see, the straight people I know that support gay rights are indeed straight, but as the Georgia University study showed, most homophobic people are actually aroused by same sex activity -- so their hatred is ultimately inward directed -- which is a problem all in and of itself -- and I've actually seen that in action. It is very sad.

I've linked a couple of articles of interest on this below. Should you go to the third link, the telling chart is a third of the way down the page in the section headed "University Study of Homophobia."

Kind regards,

Reynolds Jones
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Answer 3

See, the word "question" can have multiple interpretations.

If you mean, "Hey, I've got a question about gay lifestyles..." then I seriously doubt anyone is going to call you a homophobe. They will probably wonder about your sexuality if the end of that question is "... does anybody know where the nearest gay bar is?"

If, on the other hand, you mean "I question whether it is okay for other people to be gay," then that is a little bit different, isn't it?

If I told you that I question your right to continue drawing breath, would you hold it against me? After all, it's just a question...

Answer 4

wouldn't someone who would say "i hate the straight lifestyle, and the social norms at the bars, and all the sociall hellos and kisses to people i dont wanna know" be labelled as gay eventually?
the thing is, how can someone who is not gay criticize the gay lifestyles, if only knows what hears or watches on tv? has he or she ever been a part of it?
then, its either a homophobe, and idiot, or a repressed gay. Pick any of these lables.

Answer 5

There's a big difference between asking questions, seeking to understand, and being judgmental and letting it be known that you already decided that homosexuality is wrong, something someone chooses to be, or other condescending things.

Most real questions asked with interest and respect are answered honestly. I have no issue with anyone simply questioning my lifestyle. It's the judging and discrimination that I don't tolerate. That's probably no different than how you feel about your life as well.

Answer 6

First, because you determinedly use political language that demonstrates your hatred. You know very well it's not a lifestyle, which denotes choice, but a sexual orientation, which denotes a fundamental component of the person's nature, which cannot be changed, but may be disguised.

No nationally recognized research institute, college, or association of medicine supports your claim that people 'choose' their sexuality. Not a single 'reparitive therapy' is supported by mainstream psychologists.

Stop playing games here - and take your hatred elsewhere.

Answer 7

Maybe you ask badly worded questions. Do you want an honest answer or do you want to express your point of view, call it a question, and get upset when you get an answer you didn't want?

So I hear from the questioner-

Message: You offered nothing but the usual, dime-a-dozen answer to that question. Which was to totally avoid it and attack the questioner. Nice. I see your well worded questions offer no insight to your true intentions. Laughable. I'm just trying to get some responses to a question I know a lot of people have asked themselves.

My answer-

Screw you - you asked a biggoted question with no explanation to elicit an intelligent response - then you are upset when you don't get your answer - exactly what I said. I stand by my answer.

Answer 8

It's an easy way to lash out and hit another person where it hurts, to question who they are on a fundamental level and suggest that the person him/herself doesn't know. It's childish.

However, trying to force someone not to be gay is the same exact thing, regardless of the justifications one might offer for "disagreeing" with homosexuality.

Answer 9

it is not the questioning, it is the blatant hate that people are putting out there. a legitimate question about the gay life is understandable of course. but there are so many posts that just say gays are wrong, they are the devil, they are evil, etc etc. that is being a homophobe. instantly judging gay people for who they are is just not right.

Answer 10

Because most of you turds and hos come into this section all hostile, wanting to vilify good guys and smart and wise women. It's a proven fact that almost all heterosexuals are idiots, and yet, you seem to feel the need and urge to prove your stupidity to us each time you step onto this section. You're doing your job! Every day! Our questioning your sexuality is just a way of ******' with the clown, or better yet, the jack@ss. Hos, get porked. Turds, get roasted! This is one phucked-up world, and it's all your fault. We are just the innocent bystanders.

Answer 11

questioning gay lifestyles is not to be confused with criticizing gay lifestyles....maybe if you just ask an honest , non-insulting question you'll get a real answer..at least you would from me.