After breaking up with my boyfriend last year, I met a GREAT man. We've been "friends" since December. We go out, travel together, talk on the phone 24/7, spend the night with each other and have even become intimate. I've fallen in love with this boy. He's led me to believe that he really cares for me, but because of his past relationship isn't ready to let another woman come into his life. He's been asking me to wait, but I finally see that my waiting is in vain and that we're going nowhere. I want to be the one and only because he's my one and only, but I know he sees other women.We decided that since it wasn't going to work, we would go our separate ways because I can't stand to be his friend, feeling the way I do for him.We agreed to lose contact and to not speak in public until the feelings die,on Monday, but today, I saw him in passing and he spoke and wanted to touch me like everything was cool.He even called and text?Does he really care or is he using me for the time being
2006-09-05 16:42:38 · 8 answers · asked by DaBossLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You deserve a man who wants to be in a relationship with you, not get together with you when its just convenient for him. You should ignore him and find someone else.
Don't YOU think you deserve better???
2006-09-05 16:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmm.....that sucks.
I'm gonna tell you exactly what I'd tell a good friend:
You deserve so much more!
If you have been with this guy for over a year...don't you think you're done auditioning? I mean...if this guy wanted to have a real relationship with you, he's had ample opportunity. This guy obviously wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Not that I ever condone playing games but...I'd start dating other guys if I were you. Don't sleep with this guy anymore, no matter what, unless he wants to make a commitment! He needs to see that you are desirable to other men, and that you desire other men. He may come running back, or you may just move on. Either way, you're not pining away for a guy that up till right now has been using you.
2006-09-05 23:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure where are u from but the universal rule is male attracts females and vice versa. but this is also true that attraction though starts with physical attraction turns into relationship. this is also true that the time it takes to build a relation, it takes more than twice to end it...Like a habbit you are addicted to. so u have spent lot of time with this person and has become a part of your routine. u need strength and will power to move out.......if u want to... but in your case.... see from his point view he is also involved with another person and still wants to be with you bcoz you are also part of his routine........this is true for a good geniun relationship......BUT look at the bottom line .......he is engaged with 2 person at the same time.......this cannot be true..... it has to be one and only one to be truely involved with.....either he is cheating on to you or the other female.....also at this jucture its no good for you looking back....so answer to your question is if u feel u want him and have him till you want to, then go ahead and enjoy yourself on your terms doesnt matter if he is involved 2 or 3 other people. move on in life thereafter....and enjoy
2006-09-06 00:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by anhman27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's certainly not showing that he cares about how you feel, is he? Think about it. He knows that you care more deeply about him than he does about you, agrees to leave you alone until your feelings dull but then pulls at your heart strings by breaking the agreed-upon rules. It sounds like he's trying to keep you in the stable until he finds the 'right' girl.
Let him go. He's not playing fair with you.
2006-09-05 23:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apperantly he isnt as interested , dont lower yourself , u too can show him how much ur worth by movin on, if he is for u, at the end things will turn and u all will be together if not...let it be and soon love will seek u, dont rush.....life is about enjoyin it.....so have fun!!!
2006-09-06 00:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by jassi_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really know it sound mysterious. but anything can happen, if its meant to be than its going to be ok, if hes yours than he will come back sooner or later, if he is not than it wasnt meant 2 be. u know him better than me so if he is using u, u better find out, use those girl senses :) and try to pray, if u really love him, God is always with us, trust me.
2006-09-05 23:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Wilmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DID RIGHT. YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONG, HE NOT
INTERESED IN PURSUE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU, HE
JUST WANT TO PLAY GAMES. AND YOU NEED TO MOVE
ON.
2006-09-05 23:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there before, stay away ;)
2006-09-05 23:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by cmeddens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋